Good morning! I am sorry I had the other post taken down for a few different reasons. Although several of the replies were hurtful and nasty, that was not why I had it removed. A few of you were correct in realizing I started out saying grandson and later switched to granddaughter. After I posted, I became paranoid that somehow the other grandma or my son’s gf could be reading this. I tried to switch it to read granddaughter just to make it seem different. And yes, I said gf just now and in the original post wife. They are not married. She got pregnant shortly after moving in with him. Another reason I felt it was ok to ask my son to discuss a family matter without her present was because they were not married and if she knew our family better, that may have been different. I asked for an hour with my son alone to discuss some family matters and asked if he could bring Grandson with, as I hadn’t seen him in awhile. Most comments said I shouldn’t have invited him without her. I will remember that the next time. The main reason I had the post deleted was that someone else had a side topic going on about abuse. People thought that was part of my situation and were sending me private messages. That wasn’t part of the post. I really do appreciate all the comments I got, even the negative ones as it opened my eyes. I didn’t think paternal grandparents would be treated any different, as this is my first grandchild. I now realize based on our treatment, and your comments that it is the norm. That I should request no more alone time with son and expect way less time with gs than other gp and I shouldn’t be jealous. So although I am extremely hurt, and it will take counseling, I will accept it and move on. Again, I apologize for removing other post and thank you for all the replies to it.
