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Babysitting dilemma

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yayagrandma Wed 23-May-18 16:49:21

Should I babysit for my daughter when Iknow she is going to meet a 'friend'
She is married but has told her partner she wants to separate
I really dont know what to do
One part of me thinks it wrong , but she is so unhappy .

tanith Wed 23-May-18 17:04:48

I don’t think I would be comfortable with it. What if her husband asks you questions will you have to lie for her too? Better she sorts out her marriage situation first surely.
Not an easy dilemma though.

yayagrandma Wed 23-May-18 18:38:58

thank you for taking the time to respond , that was my reaction, but you know when you doubt yourself, especially when faced with a very emotional and upset d

Ilovecheese Wed 23-May-18 18:46:37

I would babysit, and I would lie for her. Wrong, I know, but my loyalty would be to my daughter.

grannyactivist Wed 23-May-18 18:53:47

Sorry, but I would be suggesting that your daughter doesn't embroil you in her deceit. I would not condone any of my children cheating and whilst sympathetic towards a failing marriage I would be urging her to either knock the affair on the head and work on the marriage or to accept that it's over and tell the husband there's another man.
Either way there is a role for you as a sympathetic listening ear, but I suspect it's not going to be easy. flowers

stella1949 Wed 23-May-18 21:41:40

I would do it. But I'd also suggest to her that cheating isn't going to make her unhappiness go away , and that she'd be better off either fixing her marriage or leaving. But in the meantime, yes I'd do it.