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GOING TO MEDIATION

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marylane1996 Wed 30-May-18 14:39:00

I am so nervous about the step I have been forced to take. I had a fall which ended in a hip fracture 6 weeks ago and phoned my granddaughter to inform her as her mum and I have not spoken in 4 years. My daughter is on Prozac and has had mental health issues for 30 years. I politely asked my daughter by text if I could see my grandson when I came out of hospital though I would be on a stick but had someone to drive me as they live 25 miles away. She called me names which I cannot repeat and said I was totally selfish as my grandson had just come out of hospital and was in great pain. I was only aware he had gone for a checkup following a major operation last year so was totally shocked and worried. She gave me no further information til a week later when she said that her and husband had agreed I should not see my gs again. I begged her not to do this as I looked after him when he was little and we have always had fun together in the school holidays. I have now instructed a solicitor and my 20 year old granddaughter has just blocked me and has
nothing to do with me. She has made some awful allegations which have made me ill. She has said I had a third child who hung herself and that there is a live case against me for inappropriate behaviour with children. My solicitor immediately checked on the latter and said it was rubbish which of course I knew but the pain of this and not seeing my gs is dreadful. I don't know what he has been told as I have just disappeared from his life. I am trying to get on with things in general but am so in need of support as I have few friends as sadly I lost 2 this year and quite frankly it is an awful story

sparkly1000 Wed 30-May-18 17:20:36

Sorry to hear this Mary, having read your previous posts I assume your DDG is the older sister of your 11 year old DGS?
I'm not sure what you have instructed your solicitor to do?
I can't see how mediation could help at the moment as all parties have to be willing to take part and from what you describe this seems unlikely.
Take care of yourself.

Belgravian Wed 30-May-18 17:27:58

I'm a bit confused.

Who has made the allegations, your granddaughter or your daughter?

How old is the grandson?

Mediation as already has been mentioned is for all sides to agree to meet with a view to resolution.

Nana49 Mon 04-Jun-18 21:12:29

Invite your DD to mediation & if she isn't going to engage you’ll need to apply to the court.
Has your DD done this before? It seems hugely distressing for you.
Ignore the allegations. If you can look at your DD as ill rather than vindictive it might help.
I have a similar situation going on with my DD, including vile & untrue allegations - I am trying to be business like about it. Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn't.
Keep going though. Do everything you can to maintain a relationship with your DGS.