I really didn't know where to put this and have changed some details after finding a desperate post of mine had been out on facebook. I have a grandson with desperate health issues who has now developed a further illness. He cannot work but is only entitled to minimum state support. We have been paying to keep a roof over his head, his parents can't help. On Monday we are meeting with a financial advisor with a view to taking some form of equity from the house. I am desolate that it has come to this. We cannot downsize unless we live in a tent and have no space for a lodger. I feel better for having written this down and I know we are lucky to have this close relationship with him, I would just like a bit of my retirement to be without this constant anxiety.
I've got another 'keen'... Ouch!