Sue, what a worrying situation for you, but I agree with the previous posters who say this is actually your son's problem not yours. I have no doubt that your precious DGD brings much joy to your lives, but you should not be the prime carers.
By taking on the parental role, you have enabled your son to shirk his responsibilities. I am willing to bet that if he had taken care of his child, as he should have done, he would not have made the same 'mistake' twice.
You have already done more than your share here and have effectively postponed your plans for retirement in order to take on another mother's child. I find it odd that the mother is not involved. However, it seems that the second GF does want to be a mother, so why can't she look after her baby when he or she is born.
I would give practical help and support but you would be mad, in my opinion, to take on the task of raising another child well into your 60s. And what about your poor husband? At a time when he thought your parenting days were over and you enjoy time together, travel etc, he is put back into the role of father - he has done it once, and the love for your DGC has meant that he probably does not regret it, but I would be surprised if he wants to do it again.
Your son and his GF are adults, stop being so involved and let them make adult decisions and take on their own responsibilities. Otherwise, you are going to end up with a whole nursery full of children and no retirement at all.
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