Sadgranma - I have what I consider to be a very big role in my grandchildren lives, but
, I am never there first thing Christmas morning. That is precious family time. I would have hated to have missed out on that myself. We get the afternoon, which I am more than happy with. Son an partner only every other year. Occasional family holiday, but they usually do their own thing. My DGCs were all breastfed, so never really had them without parents until they were older. I was/am allowed to bath and change nappies. You have a pretty good amount of time with your GC, much more than most. Don't ruin it by being demanding, or expecting even more! You are blessed.