Christmas and Birthdays

Yes.

Well I have only seen my grandchildren twice and not in past 8 years so I do not send in fact when I learnt when babies my gifts were not wanted they only wanted designer expensive items I stopped and said as I do not see them so never have to worry about birthday or Christmas gifts When money is tight one has to make priorities and giving gifts that are neither wanted or appreciated is a no brainy so nansypansy do not worry keep a text message going if you can

In our family, it was annual presents until 18, then a special one for 21, and that's it. I'm afraid they don't even get cards anymore. The only exception is if we are going to see them around their birthday - but that seldom happens.

We had a rule that it was presents and cards up to their 18th birthday then just a card after that. Worked out well and I continued it with my gt nieces and gt nephews and now with my gt gt nieces (no gt gt nephew yet!)

Completely agree with the others. In our family once they hit 18 they no longer get presents, just a card.
I don't understand the need people feel to continually give presents to adults.

Personally I wouldn't make a thing of it at all, cards only is just fine!

My grandsons send me lots of lovely letters and texts, but they still only get a card, they know if I could afford presents they would get them, just as I did it the whole time they were growing up.

Honestly, you don't need to justify it, you have always sent gifts, now they are adults, and I am sure it won't cross their mind if they only get a card.

I print my own cards too lol, I call myself stingy but the huge family I have it costs a fortune to send something that will be thrown away the next day! :-)

Totally agree with the previous respondents. You’ve done your bit and I’m sure it was appreciated. You could have a word with your DIL just to clarify the situation and maybe she can talk to your Grandson and explain that in future it will just be cards.

I don't think it is mercenary and it is common for presents to stop when people reach adulthood. Nice cards aren't exactly cheap nowadays nor is postage and frankly that is enough to spend on someone that you don't see for someone who doesn't have money to spare.
Your dil sounds understanding so you might want to let her know but it is unlikely to cause any upset either way from the sound of it.

I have reduced from card and present, to card, and now only an e- card or Facebook post on my great- nephew’s birthday. He seems fine with that. However I am more in touch with his sister so I continue to give her a Christmas present and send cards. It makes sense to me and to them.

He is sending you a card - so he thinks that this is fine. You send him a nice card with a few cheerful words inside, and that will be just right. Don't feel bad - he is a man now and surely wouldn't expect a gift .

I think it would be OK to just send cards with a nice message in now that they are adults.

Many people have a rule that in these circumstances presents stop at 18. It is certainly the rule in my family. I think it would quite reasonable for you now to send a card but not a present.

Explain this to your DiL, who sounds a really nice person, and your GS, I am sure they will understand.