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Samiejb Wed 19-Dec-18 12:19:12

Hi everyone - just come home from a first school Christmas service - one grandson in year 1 and the younger one sitting with me. Please tell me why once they start singing I start crying and can't stop throughout the whole thing. It's not watching the little ones dressed up, it's the singing that gets me going. I feel and must look right stupid. I know I'm a bit emotional but this is ridiculous - even to the stage that I wonder if I should go at all.

hopstone Thu 20-Dec-18 10:49:35

shysal….thanks for that, it's brilliant, made my morning!!

sarahcyn Thu 20-Dec-18 10:48:35

I’m so glad to read this. I thought it was just me. When my children were at primary school I had to have a box of tissues with me and ended up always at the back to save my family embarrassment. Tears just pouring out of my eyes as though a tap had been turned on in my head, from the first notes to the end and sometimes beyond. I thought I’d got over it now.
But I listened yesterday to a short radio play, “Fairy Tale of New Malden” by Katherine Jakeways. And lo, I was off again. It’s wonderful and very funny with Geoffrey Palmer as a gloomy grandad coralled into being Santa. I recommend it to anyone with access to iPlayer.

glammanana Thu 20-Dec-18 10:44:33

Shysal Thanks so much for the link it has really made my day.x tchsmile

Margs Thu 20-Dec-18 10:41:24

Their singing was THAT excruciating?

Purplepoppies Thu 20-Dec-18 10:40:48

I'm a cryer too. I cried at my dd performing and now cry at dgd.
I also cry at weddings!! Infact at a relatives wedding I sobbed that much all you can hear on the wedding video is me!! Thank goodness I've never walked down the aisle myself!!

Skinnylizzie Thu 20-Dec-18 10:40:30

I have just sat through school assembly crying..... in secondary school & I’m the teacher ?‍?

ajanela Thu 20-Dec-18 10:40:18

I am welling up just reading the posts.

Nannan2 Thu 20-Dec-18 10:39:36

Oh with me its the movies- my 'kids'(now 15&20;my youngest)drag me along to watch films and gauranteed im welling up at end or in a poigant sad bit-even end of toy story 3 where the big baby wants his mama- its become a regular family joke for my sons!

moleswife Thu 20-Dec-18 10:33:23

Oh don't Shysal - it's started me coughing again!!
But that's what music does - reaches the parts that few other things can! So if you're feeling down join a singing group - our group, whilst out carol singing, was invited in to sing to someone with dementia - he can no longer speak clearly and confined to bed but he joined in word perfect with the choruses - that was a tear jerker!

Beilas Thu 20-Dec-18 10:31:16

Hadn’t seen my granddaughter for quite a while, and when i arrived for a visit, was invited by her Mum to join her when collecting G’D from school to walk home with them. To both their consternation, (and my surprise!) I cried all the way home! From the sheer joy of seeing her once again, and how lovely she is!

Witzend Thu 20-Dec-18 10:29:11

I can guarantee that hearing little kids sing Away In A Manger will invariably have me groping for the tissues!

nannyof4 Thu 20-Dec-18 10:23:41

I also shed a few tears not only at at children singing but anything on the tv or even reading sad things on the news can get me going at times.

Allykat1946 Thu 20-Dec-18 10:20:50

There is just something about little children singing or dancing.. I too get emotional when watching children especially the little ones...

MadMaisie Thu 20-Dec-18 10:19:26

I could never hold it together when my playgroup children sang anything at Christmas and have sobbed my way through my grandson’s Nativity play this morning.

Sarahmob Thu 20-Dec-18 10:17:51

Nothing at all wrong with a bit of emotion, children singing gets me every time. When I was teaching we would sing away in a manger when all our christingle candles were lit, the glittering wasn’t only the lights in the darkened church, but the tears in my eyes.

gilld69 Thu 20-Dec-18 10:17:32

me too gets me at every school play especially my grabdaufhters year 6 leavers i sobbed

Nannyme Thu 20-Dec-18 10:13:59

It’s perfectly normal, we all do it and it means we love them all very much and we are proud of their achievements.

Applegran Thu 20-Dec-18 10:12:20

I cry too at children in a nativity play - whether or not my grandchildren are involved. I think it is the children's innocence and simplicity - they are just there, singing, and being themselves. They will grow up and face so many things - we don't know what will happen and we hope they will be happy, but they are innocents going into an unknown world.

Elderlyfirsttimegran Thu 20-Dec-18 10:10:36

Many years my husband died when the children were under 5. My eldest was in kindergarten and I went to the summer end of term performance, I can’t even remember what it was. All I remember is the children singing “Sonewhere over the rainbow” and weeping, trying not to let people see. I can’t listen to it now without crying.

Marmight Thu 20-Dec-18 01:24:08

I just find childrens' nativities, plays & concerts hilarious. I love watching what they get up to and how they react. Last week GS, 6, was the Angel Gabriel and delivered his lines very seriously at top speed, with his wings at a jaunty angle round his bottom while a junior angel, 5, had both forefingers stuck up each nostril (quite some feat) having a good old pick while standing on one leg ?. This week another GS, 8, sang the 1st verse of Once in Royal David's City quite beautifully in a candlelit church. I didn't feel weepy, just very proud. Maybe I'm a bit odd?

phoenix Wed 19-Dec-18 20:05:05

The afternoon play today on Radio 4 featured a (not especially good) rendition of "Once in Royal Davids City"

I welled up!

Chewbacca Wed 19-Dec-18 19:57:03

Shysal that had me crying with laughter! There's one in every school, isn't there?

Iam64 Wed 19-Dec-18 19:49:17

The opening bars of Away in a Manger leave me weeping. Ditto Silent Night and many many other Christmas carols. Christmas is a time for weeping, it just is - we could just go with it (take tissues and no mascara)

shysal Wed 19-Dec-18 18:48:54

www.youtube.com/watch?v=dpsXNlarAk8
If you haven't seen this before you will be crying with laughter. It never fails to amuse me.

Chewbacca Wed 19-Dec-18 18:17:56

I've just been to GD's nativity play this morning and there wasn't a dry eye in the house! When I looked at all the little children on stage, I could "see" the same children from DS's school days 35 years ago. I put my tears down to the onset of macular degeneration!