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I'm step mother and we just had a grandbaby

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DIL17 Mon 08-Apr-19 05:02:09

My husbands parents are divorced and both remarried. Their partners like you aren’t our children’s grandparents and our children just call them by their first names.

They do however, get treated in the same way as their grandparents we just didn’t want them to have that title so to speak as they have their grandparents here and didn’t want anyone to feel replaced.

They both also have their own grandchildren and they call my husbands parents by their first name also.

As for chain of command, quite frankly I found that comment awful! It’s a child’s life and when it comes to saying something it depends on your relationship with the parents. If you feel you can say something then do, if not then don’t.

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Bdfnotk Mon 08-Apr-19 03:30:03

So my partner and I have been together for 23 years but are technically not married. His ex wife is remarried. My oldest step son just had their first baby today and we're all super excited and happy to have mom and baby doing well. We're truly blessed!! My daughter in law has both of her parents still, who have been divorced for 25 years and neither ever remarried. My issue is, where do I fit in in the order of the chain of command so to speak. I get treated by the 'mothers' as if I don't count for things. I was told today that this is not my grandson, I couldn't hold the baby today. Our son And dtr-in-law were clearly uncomfortable and I didn't make an issue of it at all in front of them. I feel left out, and I just wonder where my place is. Do I continue to be the step parent and now Nanny that I've always been? Or do I just see the kids when the 'mothers' aren't around?

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