don't panic

Glad it went well, OP! Talk about a 'phew' moment.

Re car seats, oh Lord, I still have trouble even after plenty of practice. However the worst was when dd once phoned from the friend's house in France where she was staying with little Gdcs - she needed to get an earlier flight home, the weather was awful and baby Gds wasn't well (he had a history of bronchiolitis).

Trouble was, she'd flown from Stansted, the earliest flight back was to Gatwick - and she'd left her car at Stansted!
We had one car seat, so I had to zoom down to Halfords for another and tell the very nice man I needed a baby seat that was absolutely simple for me to install in a hurry.

And I had shingles!!!
But thank goodness I managed, picked them up, drove them home - an hour and a half from where I live. And little Gds was not too bad that time, though he'd been in hospital before with bronchiolitis, and would be again.

It was poor old son in law who had to trek to Stansted to,pick her car up later.

Thank you so much to everyone!

They survived. I hope they did not pick up any of the interesting words Granny may have said once or twice. I rediscovered muscles I hadn't used since 1989. Today I will be mainly lying down.

Next time. Mmm. Mm...

How did you get on Bless ? Hope everything went well, and your looking forward to next time

Susie and Katy - sigh... lol!

Oh how I sympathise Suzie, don't know why there so complicated.Last time we needed the car seat taking out we had to go back to the shop and ask them to take it for us.I'd got myself into such a tiswas, it wasn't until we got home that I realised I hadn't even bought it from there! .

The dreaded buggies and car seats ! I have to get my daughter to open up the buggy and leave it up during the whole duration as I can't work it out ! We had to abandon a car trip once as I couldn't fasten the car seat belt . At least it wasn't the other way round- unable to get him out! The older DGD looked on witheringly as if to say " who HAVE you left us with ?"

Good luck Bless.Just waiting for my dgc same age as yours to arrive for the weekend.Don't forget to eat and drink, I often neglect myself while their here, then wonder where my energy has gone !

Don't forget you're older and wiser than you were in 1988

Ask parents to bring along a favourite CD - singalong, soother etc. Plus any comforters, blankets/dummies, favourite toys and tell you about night-time rituals.

Assume that at some time one or both will cry - plan what to do when that happens. Bear in mind that if a child cries for long enough it usually goes to sleep !

Childproof the house - move anything you don't want grabbed, smashed, sat on, eaten or smeared with food.
Make sure your coffee/tea mug is well out of reach.

Have lots of 'allowable' foods ready. My son could be halted in mid yell if I held up a piece of banana or a toast finger

Have a supportive friend round to help and revive you when you drop from sheer exhaustion early on Saturday.

Try to avoid alcohol, even when they've gone to bed.
You can bet your life the moment you pour a glass of whatever, one or both will start screaming, falling out of bed, poohing all over the place, developing a rash etc.

Make sure Monday is totally clear so you can sleep and recover.

Good luck.

"I haven't looked after a 1 year old on my own since 1988."

It will come back to you. Of course, some things have changed due to new information, etc., so I agree with asking the parents for instructions.

Al the other advice is good, too, imo.

"I never did get on all that well with under 5's."

Not sure what that means. Perhaps you find them difficult to handle? A good idea might be to ask the parents what discipline techniques they use and copy those if you can since that's what the gc are used to. Also, I suggest keeping them as active as possible, so maybe they'll sleep better at night and go down more easily for naps, so you can get a rest, too. (3 yr old might just rest, of course, rather than nap.)

And hey, Friday to Sunday? It may seem like a lot now, but it will be over before you know it. You may even miss them. I hope you set aside time to pamper yourself after their parents come and get them or you go home (if you're staying at their place).

And yes, please let us know how it goes!

Speak to the parents about your worries. They will be worried too and it will reaasure them that you are not being blaze about it!

Keep them fed, hydrated, toileted and safe. Stick to basics. Don't be over ambitous with outings, at that age they may run in opposite directions in open spaces and then you'll have to chose which one you love most to save (kidding - ish). So keep to enclosed spaces unless you have another pair of hands (and legs).

They eat more frequently than adults. They pee and pop more frequently than adults. So if you go out sit them uo for food first, then wees, then out with snacks and toilet stops. Keep it unambitous & short distances. The local shop or library or play park. Dont try to make it adventurous because the simplest of outings are adventures at that age.

Concentration activites (baking, crafts etc) will fail MISERABLY unless perfectly timed so once again: simple and not over ambitous is best.

Definitely get very detailed lists with time tables for everything! You don't have to stick to it all, it's just something to refer to in moments of stress. Honestly most of us think we've succeeded if we just manage to hand back two live children and the house is still standing

Lots of good advice especially about pushchairs, they are b*** awful to handle. If you have any shoe boxes or cardboard boxes start filling them with things that might interest them. You can get cheap toys from charity shops but 3 year old will also appreciate ribbons, shiny paper scarves etc. Babies love wooden spoons plastic boxes, pan lids etc. if they get fractious produce a box and ask "What's in here?" If you have a couple of old handbags they will enjoy filling them with anything and 3 year old can be sent "shopping". Good luck, have fun! (And book yourself a spa treatment for Monday!!!!)

I don't know if GD2 is still in nappies

Most likely for a 1 year old, most people don't start toilet training until after 2 now. At least you won't have to worry about any accidents if you go out.

With a three year old they're likely to have a 'buggy board' on the pushchair that she can stand on when out walking. Maybe ask in advance because if not then it may be worth investing in one so you don't have to push the pushchair and worry about a toddler running off if you go out.

Maybe get a couple of cheap little toys to keep them occupied (or to distract from a tantrum!). Just things like bubbles or balloons. The ceebeebies magazine may be good for the older GD, has lots of stickers and things to colour in which should keep her occupied for a while.

I'm sure you'll have a great time!

Yes, pushchairs and #%#%#% car seats are a nightmare nowadays!
I actually bought a relatively simple McLaren pushchair for Gdd, since I couldn't handle the monstrosity dd had got 2nd hand from somewhere at a fraction of the ludicrous price. And eventually she ditched the monstrosity and used mine.

May I suggest making playdough for the 3 year old? My Gdd (only just 4) has always loved 'making' anything, and playdough is v simple - my recipe is just tbsps of flour, oil, water and salt, with food colouring added - and she'd play with it for ages afterwards. Some plastic biscuit cutters are good. She liked making 'cakes' with it - I would give her some little paper cake cases to put them in.

We have often made fairy cakes too - using an all-together mix method with soft Stork or butter and a bit of baking powder.
Maybe something to do while the younger is having a nap?

Some new bath toys might be good - the bath is a good way of tiring them out a bit before bed!

Good luck - it will be tiring I'm sure (she said with feeling - ours are only 15 months apart and we've done a lot of childcare) but you will manage.
We're having ours for 3 nights in July! - younger will be nearly 3. Also for a wedding abroad, a very welcome break plus lovely lie ins for dd and SiL.

Oh, and don't forget good old CBeebies! Don't mind admitting it was a lifesaver now and then.

Good question Cherrytree, with regard to if it's their home or that of the OP, could make a big difference!

Maybe they have a friend nearby to call on if you have a question or major problem ( eg the pushchair!) .
Good luck this could be the start of a closer relationship with the gc.

Don’t forget to get formula do’s and dont’s if the baby is still bottle fed
Absolutely, Tanith.
My mum once looked after DD2, aged 6 months, fortunately only for a morning.
When I got back, she complained that the feeding bottle ‘wasn’t working’
On examination it transpired she had tried to make up the formula using Farex instead of SMA ?

Thank you all so much for cheering me up! - my first time here and it is lovely to know I'm not the only one who isn't confident this is going to be like riding a bike.

SIL's brother is slated to visit (but unfortunately has two small boys so I'm not sure how much that will help); Daughter 1 has been making noises about checking in, too; and Daughter 2 sent a text this morning to "confirm" that I'd be there this weekend (no, not unless I've got the date wrong).

I don't know if GD2 is still in nappies.

Oh boy. Will remind myself "nothing is ever as bad as you think it's going to be."

I’ve been there grannyqueenie! Had to ask a young dad how to put the car seat in the car!

I was thinking of channelling my inner Cruella de Vil, actually - better rethink that one, then!

Do you know any teenage girls or a friend you could bring with you to help? Another pair of eyes is a huge help and some younger people seem to be able to relate better to small children than us oldies. When babysitting 1 and 2 year old grandchildren last year, in our own house, I asked a friend to come as I knew minding 2 would be hard.

Other suggestions above are all excellent.

The dreaded pushchair??- I put him in ok, took him for a walk, and on return, could not unbuckle him . My fingers are neither strong nor nimble enough. After struggling for some time, with a screaming baby wanting to get out, I approached a neighbour, who btw never had children or grandchildren and she succeeded. Can you believe?
So, my advice us to get some practice with the pushchair, besides all the other tips given by other Nans/ grandma - good luck- you should be proud that they trust you.

Are you looking after them in their own home
Blessmissdunstable ?

Channel your inner Nanny Mcphee or Mary Poppins.

Can you get some age appropriate toys and books from the charity shop to hide in your bag, even wrap in paper.

When you need a distraction take out one of the toys and books.

The 1 year old will love the wrapping paper.

Bubbles are loved by most children.

Ask parents to write out rules and timings emergency numbers etc.

If weather nice then play in the garden getting 3yr old to run and jump.
Good for tiring them out.
Bath time could be fun with some coloured bubble bath from tesco etc (check with parents first).

Avoid sweets and chocolate biscuits as this will cause sugar rush!

Dont worry about mess as long as the children ok it does not matter.

The parents will be just as anxious and I'm sure will keep in touch.
Let us know how you get on.

Good luck

ps you agreed because you’re kind and do remember how much a break away from small children means to beleaguered young parents!