My Daughter (31 yrs) Son in law (32 yrs), Grand-daughter 19 mths) and I (56 yrs) have recently moved into a rental home together. They are military and are stationed in our hometown for the next year to two years.
The problem is, I feel as though I am walking on egg shells all the time to keep everyone happy. I cherish the time I have with my Grand-Daughter and help my kids all I can so that they may have some quality time alone away on date nights, which isn't often.
The problem I am having, is that I was told yesterday that I need to quit running to the baby when ever I hear her cry. (Believe me, this is not the case) There have been a few times where she has fallen or let out a cry that lets me know that she is indeed hurt somehow and it's only natural for one to run to them (the parents) and ask "is she ok?" or "what happened?" Evidently, they take great offence to this as though I don't trust that they are watching her. They are great parents by the way, and are always present when these things happen.
My question to you is this. Am I wrong? Should I leave them alone? Should I stay away when she cries out like this? My feelings were quite hurt and we have yet to speak.
I know they don't like sharing a home with MOM...as I know they miss their privacy as do I. But until the time comes where we must part again, how do I try to Grandparent without them thinking I am all up in their business and judging them as new parents?
Any and all advice is must appreciated, as I will be seeing them for the first time when I get home from work today and not sure how to handle.
Thank you
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