I seem to remember that the mother isn't a bad parent just not the greatest parent and thet she had to enforce the court order for your son to have them at all is that right?The wee girl is just coming to an age where Daddy can do no wrong so in my experience its normal for her to want o live with her dad,I've had two who did that around that age .one whose dad is a waste of space and who has a wonderful mother,the other whose mother is as equally a good parent as her dad .Kids just see it differently,mine have both come through that phase and are happy with the situation as it is though both have been told that when they are older IF they want to move to live with their dads that will be their choice.I wouldn't think this is anything to be concerned about unless the mum is abusive and I seem to remember its ONLY the dad who has to be supervised so I'd guess not .
At the end of the day its down to whether you can keep having them at weekends or force your SS to look afterhis own children ..if he's reluctant he can pay for someone to do the care in your home .The children must always come first with someone ,their mother has them most of the time so it appears to be that she wants them but 3 children on her own when he's getting off scot free would make me angry too .He needs to step up .Sorry if that not what you want to hear .
Son's fiancee hates us - we're going to family therapy
My dilemma is that she's a slob - how to discuss with her?
A level of gravitas and decorum has been lost - don't think she's a naive player