Hello, I!m new to Gransnet, in fact I haven't been on a forum before.
Wondered if there was anyone else out there who feels the guilt I do at the moment. My daughter had a baby 6 months ago. She has just gone back to work part time and asked if I could look after the baby for one day a week.
I am still working, more or less full time and retirement isn't to far in the future. The other grandparent does work, but is able to swap days around a little and offered like a shot.
I have had ill health for over a year and have to be careful to keep myself healthy, rest being an important part, when I can squeeze that in!
I would always help out in an emergency, but can't commit regularly. I also feel anxious that something will go wrong while I am looking after the baby and also I struggled with my two children in the first 6 months and for some reason it is like going back in time and relieving the absolute fear of being responsible for something so small.
Christmas we were all going to be together, but haven't been invited as it was thought I wouldn't mind and would be doing something else and that the other grandparent did lots already and will be coming for Christmas. We all live close by and the first Christmas with a grandchild is a very special one. The other grandparents have a grandchild already, but this is my first. Just to let you know, we do all get on.
I'm just wrestling with all this and trying to see it from my daughters perspective, but finding it hard and that I have let her down.
Anybody else out there who feels the same or may have some experienced grandparent advice to give?
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