I have a tough one. I am staying with my son and his family. I have two delightful 3-1/2 year old grandsons, both with some developmental disabilities. My daughter-in-law has begun to potty train them, and she is basically doing everything that all the professionals recommend against. She waits until they have an accident, and then yells at them and shakes something in their face. She calls them "bad boys" and tells them that it's disgusting. She is really aggressive.
Adding to the difficulty is the fact that she was born in Vietnam, and there are certainly cultural differences in the way children are raised there.
I tried to give her an article from Baby Center about what works and what doesn't, and that only made her mad at me. And -- big mistake -- I admit I yelled at her one time when she was yelling at one of the boys. Now she is not even speaking to me.
I'm thinking all I can do it bite my tongue and never intervene, but it's hard!
Suggestions?
Ellen
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