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Feel it is so sad

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SueDonim Thu 27-Feb-20 23:28:54

It’s so much fun to talk to little ones! They come out with such hilarious things, I wouldn’t want to miss out in that. A couple of times lately I’ve been in cafes where there have been children at a table with a parent absorbed in their phone, and I’ve played little games from my table, waving when they’ve looked in my direction, silent peek-a-boo and so on. So many smiles from them, yet still their parent hasn’t even looked up to see what’s going on.

sad. I know we’re told that parents today are too busy or that they might be taking an emergency call or dealing with some calamity or other, but really? The majority of them? Yet my AC who are all parents who work FT manage to deal with day to day life without constantly needing to be on their phone.

CanadianGran Thu 27-Feb-20 23:18:22

I know it is too easy to let electronics entertain our children. I have four grandchildren by two of my children, and I despair at the amount of television in one of the families.
When they spend the day or overnight at my house the TV is rarely on for them. They do manage to keep busy, and I enjoy the interaction with them. Admittedly sometimes it is a bit much with my too-chatty four year old granddaughter!

Namsnanny Thu 27-Feb-20 23:11:00

No of course your not Lisbethann!! Everything you say is true.

God what I'd do to have the chance with my GC to spend just one more hour in their company.
Cant say more just now it's just too painful.

maddyone Thu 27-Feb-20 23:10:02

So sad isn’t it?

Lucca Thu 27-Feb-20 23:05:05

Totally agree. I am always annoyed (not the right word probably)when I see parents with kids in cafes or restaurants and the kids are given phone or I pad to watch cartoons. Why bother going out for a meal?

GagaJo Thu 27-Feb-20 22:59:55

No, you're not at all. They are precious and we should appreciate them.

fourormore Thu 27-Feb-20 22:58:40

You are not a sentimental old fool Lizbethann55 I agree with you so much. So often I see Mums with kiddies of any age on the buses - Mum is scrolling on her phone and like you say - no words are spoken.
I had a wonderful experience a few weeks ago - standing at the bus stop I became aware of voices coming up behind me. A mum talking to her toddler in his pushchair. They were playing I-spy and the little one was giggling with delight whenever he guessed correctly! He also 'spied' something beginning with 'M' that Mum didn't guess. When she gave up he told her it was a motor bike. Obviously the said motor bike was long gone! Again fits of giggles! It was truly lovely to hear!

Lizbethann55 Thu 27-Feb-20 22:37:12

Two recent situations seem so sad to me. I work in a thriving branch library. One day last week a grandad came in with his granddaughter, probably about 6 years old. He sat and read a newspaper while she sat and looked at books. Not one word was said until after about twenty minutes they left, still with never a word. This afternoon my DH was on a train. It had stopped raining and the sun had come out. The train journey is a really pretty and interesting one. A granny got on with a little boy (4 or 5 years old). He sat and listened/watched very loud nursery rhymes on a phone the whole journey. Not a word was spoken. I just feel these were two lost opportunities to communicate, to build relationships and memories. To pass on information and knowledge. To share special moments. To share stories. To point out trees, animals, anything of interest. Our DGC grow so quickly. Blink and those precious years have gone. We are no longer special magical beings and just have to settle for courtesy visits. Their little hands will no longer clutch ours and they won't hang on every word we say. Why ignore these oh so precious times. Or am I just being a silly sentimental old fool?