DSD had DGS 12 weeks ago and whilst I adore him, me & dh are really struggling - with pretty much everything.
DSD's mom kicked off in hosp whilst she was in labour - got banned.
dsd suffered prolonged labour and complications - GS born HIE grade 2 by ECS, transferred to anoth hospital for cooling.
dsd suffered more complications and had to go back for more surgery and hosp she had him.
Transferred her ourselves to be with DGS next day to hosp 1.5 hours away from home town - spent 3 weeks there. During time there he was having up to 70 seizures some nights - his Nanny (DSD's Mom) - chose not to go and see him. Transfer back to more local hosp.
DSS (16) moved in with us as moms drinking became out of control.
DGS has frequent seizures and is back and forth from hospital every couple of days - DSD is struggling - he is NG fed and has significant brain damage and also now diagnosed with epilepsy.
Since that little one came into this world he has made his presence known and we absolutely adore every inch of him. We know that he has very complex issues and his care needs are great and we are trying to support and are there most days.
We both work F/T and are called out at least once a week, so far work have been very good but not sure how long this will last.
dSd's mom is being vile to both dsd and dss, threatening to take dsd to court to have DGS 1 minute and threatening to beat up dsd and her partner the next. Telling everyone DSD caused DGS brain damage - story and reason changes every time. She still has not seen him and even though this is all going on I still in part feel sorry for her because I know she must be hurting.
Now DSS is refusing to have any contact with her also.
Me and dh are just so knackered, we don't know where to go or which way to turn. It is financially and emotionally breaking us and we are so scared for little one and the pressure on DSD and her partner also. we literally do not get 5 minutes to ourselves as dSS is with us constantly and I think he needs counselling because he is very clingy and follows us around the house until bedtime.
This is not what we thought grand parenting was going to be, please tell me it gets better
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