Imminent grandma feeling apprehensive

You might see if there's an online grandparenting class you could take. Seriously, it's a thing. The focus is on how recommendations have changed over the years and on educating grandparents about new guidelines so that they can ensure that they're providing safe care for their GC.

Totally understand your concerns newbiegran, all the best grandmothers have them . I simply asked what would help the most and got on with it. Seemed to work and we’re all still speaking after 14 years. Go, enjoy and relax as much as anyone can in a house with a newborn. You’ll be fine. Many congratulations, do come back and chat to us after the event.

Practical things like washing up, ironing, hanging out the washing or cooking a meal are the chores that go out of the window for the first couple of weeks. So maybe you could do those things and that will allow your daughter to concentrate on the new baby. Being a grandma is great, you get all the fun and then get to hand them back. As the baby grows into a little person your love will grow too.

When my daughter had her first baby she didn’t want or need me to do anything with the baby ( she was a natural, much more so than I was ) but appreciated help around the house, bringing her a drink whilst she was feeding etc. And just providing company and support generally.
When she had the second child I was quite useful occupying the older one at times.
I am sure you will be fine.

As CanadianGran says, you are there to help DD not to look after the baby. I think we all take a while to get back into it.
You'll be fine.Take the baby out for a walk in the pram to let DD get some sleep. That's what I did. Luckily new babies sleep a lot (especially in the daytime).
I also found that once the baby was in my arms I instinctively knew what to do despite the 30 years of no babies.

Congratulations!

Thanks! She does have a partner (whose mum lives nearby and actually has 4 children and 2 grandchildren but my daughter actually wants her OWN mum not the mum-in-law) which is very flattering, although daunting. You're right - I can definitely do lots of chores for her. It's a boy. I daresay changing nappies will come back to me (and thanks to her younger brother I won't forget to watch out for the spray!)

I think you will be surprised that your instincts will kick in.

Let your daughter guide you in the amount of help/advice given. Even just being in the house to do chores so she can convalesce after birth, and get some much needed sleep will be helpful.

Don't be too hard on yourself about being anxious; help to create a relaxing environment for your daughter and partner (you didn't mention if she had one). After all, you have done this before. And if you have rusty skills then you can muddle through it and have a giggle together.

First of all, breath. Congrats!

Ask your daughter what kind of help she needs.
Follow her instructions and wishes

Get a book for baby care from the library if if you think it is going to help you.

You will do great!