It must be very hard for a father not to be able to see his daughter for three months after she has given birth, and particularly not to be given any idea of when he will be allowed to do so. First-time mums have had to cope without the usual physical midwife/HV/baby clinic/GP/friend and family support at a vulnerable time and no doubt your DH is worried about her, HarlemShuffle. It’s surprised me that the attitude of so many older women has been “well I had to cope without much support so they’ll just have to get on with it”. I doubt many, if any, of us were cooped up indoors for weeks on end, with no visitors or change of scene.
I hope your DH’s daughter has a supportive partner, and is looking after her own physical and mental well-being. From experience I can say that mums can feel very isolated during this time, even though people are there for her at the end of a phone line, and of course they are missing out on the normal experience of those precious first weeks as a new mum, which they will never get back. To our DD, having us see her baby in person was hugely important, and she is feeling so much happier now that she can get out and about more, seeing those who care for her and meeting up at last, even at a distance, with other new mums in the same position. Being able to register him this week was a major step towards normality!
I hope things improve for you all soon, HarlemShuffle, and wish you and your family all the best.