This thread has actually reminded me of someone I knew years ago, when our children were babies/ very young. Her dad made a ‘ snowman’, which came out every Christmas. There would be presents in it for the grandchildren, or so she thought. They weren’t the main presents, but just little extras for when they visited over the Christmas period. This girl had a sister she didn’t get on with, and therefore, never saw her children. However, they expected to find presents in the snowman for her sister’s children, because they were also grandchildren, and my friend’s children understood this. The problem came one year, when there were other presents in there, at the same time as her children’s. They were apparently for the neighbours children! This completely spoilt the entire experience for my friend’s children, as they just felt on parr with some kids up the road, no longer special. I don’t know what happened after that, as the family moved, and I didn’t see her again, 30 years now, but I still remember it. It was taking ‘ treating everyone the same’ to the extreme.