My first post.
I've found this forum and thankful for it's timing as I could use grandparents and parent advice.
My daughter and two grandchildren came for "summer vacation" and to my surprise arrived with a trailor and she said she is staying.
She's left her husband for cheating on her plus physical and emotional abuse. Everything "Is all her fault."
Any military folks? Son in law came back from Afghanistan "not right." She blames PTSD but he has a history of infidelity, blaming others for everything this was his fourth tour - no combat.
Does this become the acceptable excuse for everything? He has a desk job, no combat.
My daughter had an affair while he was deployed and the man moved in. My SIL was tolerant of it because, it turns out he was sleeping with the wife. My daughter went so far as to dye her daughter's hair the same color as the man's daughter and had them say "Sister." It's all incredibly confusing and my heart aches.
But my grandson, he was older, 8 years, and went from a sweet boy to an angry, explosive
child. He began breaking things, refusing to obey, trashing his bedroom. School put him in a self contained class because of his anger issues.
I've caught him hurting my dog. His language is horrid and he's only 12. Now that they are here full time the dysfunction is unimaginable.
My daughter had a breakdown and went to a rural area and began firing a gun. Police found her screaming, laying on the ground uninjured but they put her in a mental facility for 14 days.
The whole time she was gone, the father is out of state, my grandson blossomed. He became tender, laughing, and not once asked about his parents. So is it the parents?
Is it normal for a child to not care about his parents?
My daughter said my son in law blames ME for the hospitalization because just before it, he and I had a fight.
She calls and texts this man daily "because he's the father of my children."
I suspect some abnormal relationship lies between them but my main concern is my grandson and his wellness.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks all for listening.
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