Precocious cheeky behaviour in six year old grandaughter

I have a niece like that she is absolutely horrible I really cant stand to be in her company and I am not the only one the rest of the family feel the same and I really have got to make myself be nice to her and tell myself it's not her fault it's the parents who have made her into the most obnoxious child and unfortunately she is the one that will suffer nobody in there right mind thinks it good to have a child like that

There's a big difference between being confident and being obnoxious.

I'd say nothing to your child or son/daughter-in-law.

If your GD is rude to you personally, say something.

Are you ever alone with her? If she misbehaves when in your house, I think you could point out a thing or two.

I'd phrase things carefully though. You don't want to end up having a terrific row with her parents.

I would not have minded if my in-laws or parents had told off my children if they behaved badly. However, modern parents might be different.

Is she just assertive and confident? If she was a boy would you think differently? Girls are always expected to be quiet and submissive whilst boys can be loud, boisterous etc. Good for your granddaughter. What is not acceptable, boy or girl, is rudeness.

If she disrespects you let her know it, other than that its down to the parents. In a few years time, when she hits her teens and probably hasn't grown out of it, they will maybe regret letting her be the mini diva she sounds like she is now.

You won't be able to convince her parents that their daughter is anything but wonderful, but life will.
I remember a pretty, vivacious but thoroughly spoilt child, (nickname Shirley Temple) who ended up nearly killing herself through anorexia in her teens, when her childish charms faded, and she found herself to be in no way remarkable and no longer the centre of attention.
She survived and is now married with children and much calmer, but the whole family suffered badly and the parents split. Your granddaughter's parents are storing up trouble, although school will do much to reduce her precociousness; they have seen it all before.

Reminds me of a little girl I saw wearing a tee shirt with
‘The Whole World Revolves Around Me!” emblazoned on the front.

“No, it doesn’t” I thought, and wondered if some over indulgent parent or grandparent had bought it.

The world needs more confident women one comment says this,
What? she is a six year old child. long time till she is a women!

What does she do that is so embarrassing?

AmberSpyglass

There's a considerable difference between being politely assertive and downright rude and boorish.

I like to say that my parents, who are lovely, taught me that on the one hand you have to pick your battles, but on the other hand, you aren't obliged to eat crap just because the King of Siam wants to feed it to you.

Yes. Callistemon, we need examples, even six year olds as young as they are will cross boundaries, while there is nothing wrong with parents idolising their offspring, I find lots of photos are taken much more these days! Not saying that she isn’t naughty of course but no examples given so can’t judge!

Harsh words Mirand monsters are devils, brutes and fiends obnoxious people are disgusting, loathsome and detestable. Not sure you really mean this about a child. Who else in the family finds her obnoxious, clearly not her Parents. Not sure what you can do except be patient and hope that she will grow out of it. Perhaps she has become like this due to lockdown, missing school and her friends. Hard times even for 6 year olds.

That's the point TrendyNannie6 - we do need to know what she is doing in public that is so embarrassing and how rude is considered to be rude?

Otherwise how can we judge or advise?

Sorry just seen she’s 6 Don’t know how I missed that

How old is she ? What does she do that’s embarrassing in public? And rude and disrespectful in private?

Talking to her quietly might well help. Also, if you have her on her own, you can emphasise the sort of behaviour that you expect and show her that there are more acceptable ways of behaving. If she's as intelligent as you say, she'll soon cotton on.

I can see where you are coming from mirand and I wouldn’t like it either but nothing you can do about it if the parents give her adoration she will grow up spoilt and a diva and no I don’t agree that that makes a strong woman at all It’s often the quieter ones who are the strong women
Nothing you can do but not encourage when she’s in your company
A shame really

If you get a chance on her own have a little chat and ask her why, don’t make a fuss, children often take notice of grandparents.

Yes more difficult girls who grow into difficult women would be great.

and take far too many photos.

Can you take too many photos?

She needs to learn how to behave in public so as not to annoy others or to be rude to you but she needs to remain outgoing and to retain her self-confidence.
You don't want to make her nervous of just being herself, she sounds like a little girl with a big personality.

Honestly, she sounds great. The world needs more confident women who know their worth - don’t be the one to drum it out of her at a young age.

If she is rude and disrespectful to you, please say something, and make it clear you do not tolerate behaviour like that.

I think if it does not concern you say nothing. Not worth falling out over. Unfortunately if other people find her obnoxious she fill have a hard time ahead of her as she may find people exclude her on the basis of her behaviour.

You may get the chance to communicate with her if she's alone with you in your home. If she says or does something wrong then have a little chat and explain why it's rude, and that people don't like children who do that. Little ones usually respect their grandparents and will listen if you explain something. After all, you are teaching her about social etiquette and there's nothing wrong with that. Stay calm and contained in your manner so she knows you are simply teaching her something she should know.

Well at least be thankful she's not a whimpering little wallflower
I don't think you can do much about it personally. I'm sure she'll grow out of it and will have to change her comportment to fit in and keep friends at school.

Best not to say anything.