So I am wondering how to get our granddaughter to know us, play with us, not make strange with us etc.
It has become very awkward at family gatherings when the 'maternal' Nana is there as our granddaughter just goes right up to her, hugs her, wants to play with her, recognizes her and wants her to do everything with her and my husband and I are then left heartbroken and watch all of this. My son and his wife finally see this now after last weekend's birthday where our granddaughter turned 2. My son hasn't taken the time to bring her or his wife up here to visit. In 2 years she has been her 3 times. We hear all sorts of excuses, she can't sit in the car for 1 hour, she screams her head off in a carseat, it is her an-time so we can't come, or we are just way to busy with work. As a result my hub and I have to do all the driving there and back. They haven't made the effort to do the same for us. My daughterinlaw is very hard to get to know. I am watched like a hawk when I am near my granddaughter, but her mother does what she wants with the little one. The baby lived with her Nan and Mom for a whole month during renovations and I guess trips back and forth to Nan;s house went on regularly without my knowledge. So the dilemma is that my hub and I barely know our granddaughter, the last time she was here was 9 months ago, we feel like we are being left out because we don't live in a million dollar house or have fancy new furniture, materialism, our adult daughter who live with us is on the Autistic high functioning spectrum and it can get rough at times, but is my son embarrassed of our house, his upbringing, us, his sister because he hasn't visited us here? Embarrassed to have his wife come here? This is breaking us down big time and we struggle to know what to do, what to say, how to deal with this unhappy situation. Grandparenting was not supposed to be so hard that we have to 'beg' for us to see and visit our precious grand baby . and my son and his wife don't seem to care. He says this isn't a competition.
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