My elder GD, now 25, has fallen out with my son, her Dad. She refuses to discuss the problem with my son. My son is divorced from her mother a couple of years ago, unfortunately acrimoniously. Up until very recently, GD and mother didn’t get on for many years, she was almost excluded by her Mum. My GD has always been a bit of a difficult child although we haven’t witnessed it particularly (as we live some distance away and don’t get to see the GC that often). She ‘took off’ from home when she was 16 which caused her parents and me great anxiety, but her parents would never discuss the matter with me. (My son was very loyal to his family). However GD kept in touch with me, texting etc, and eventually arrived back home. She is very intelligent and bright, and has recently been diagnosed with autism. However her Mum has (suddenly) started taking an interest in her, previously only seeing her DD once every couple of months, now seeing her every weekend. And just as suddenly GD has turned against her Dad. It almost seems as though her mother might be ‘bad mouthing’ my son to my GD? He is very upset; GD leaves him quite unpleasant phone messages and texts and says she doesn’t want to speak to him again. I don’t want to fall out with her, and so don’t discuss the matter with her, and we seem to be ok. I have always tried to be a support to her, and have never been judgemental. I have suggested to my son that he and my GD go to a family counsellor/therapist - my GD apparently refuses to do this. I then suggested he goes himself to a family counsellor who might help him handle this unhappy situation. The other 2 GC are fine and happy. I wondered if anyone had any helpful suggestions?
