My GS is 14 1/2, GD is 13. There father left before GD was born, and has since remarried a lady with 3 children of her own.
Not been an easy path, but he has my GC every other weekend, and Friday evenings often as they live in same area.
My GS ran home in a terrible state last weekend as his father had become violent with him. Details are very distressing, so I won't expand. We had put GS refusal to go there over the last month down to teenage disagreements with father, and had let it settle without too much interference.
Apparently this abuse has been going on a long time but has increased recently.
My GS has always been quiet and shy, but has obviously reached the point where he can speak up. We are proud of him and horrified in equal measures. My GS is also speaking as violence has been in front of her for the first time.
School and social worker are involved, police and CAB have advised legal rights. So all the right things are happening.
I'm just appalled that I didn't pick this up before, and feel like I have let him down.
My niece was sexually abused by her father and that went unnoticed until she was 14. I am only 10 years older than her, so I wouldn't have picked up any clues.
This has been churning around in my head, so I understand this isn't helping my guilty trigger.
The trouble with my GC is not over as their father hasn't been challenged yet, but it is coming very soon. My GC seem better for getting things out in the open, and they will get some counseling to help them.
I just have the urge to take the "whippy stick" to the father as he has done to my GS.
Gransnet forums
Grandparenting
Join the conversation
Registering is free, easy, and means you can join the discussion, watch threads and lots more.
Register now »Already registered? Log in with:
Gransnet »