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Naming of step grandparents

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JaneJudge Mon 14-Jun-21 19:08:44

Mine call my stepdad Grandad and I call him by his first name. Does your ex husband control your daughter in other ways?

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Mattsmum2 Mon 14-Jun-21 19:04:35

My mums long time partner was always called grandad by my children and I loved to be able to do this for him as he never had any children if his own. My brothers children called him ‘uncle ‘ and then his first name as they became adults. Mine still called him grandad, he died 5 years ago and I always call him my stepdad even though they weren’t married. I cant understand if your husband has been such an important part of your lives that he can’t be called grandad, children can have lots of grandparents, the more the merrier!

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Ladyleftfieldlover Mon 14-Jun-21 19:02:24

My mother remarried after my father died. I always call my stepfather by his Christian name. When my children came along they did the same. He wasn’t bothered at all.

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suzandy7 Mon 14-Jun-21 18:56:30

My daughter (37) insists on her stepfather being called Uncle...... (1st name) instead of 'Grandpa' which is what he really wants. My Granddaughter is 22months old.
We have been married for nearly 16 years and he has been part of our lives for nearly 20 years.
This is really breaking his heart (and mine) as he has always loved her and treated her as his own daughter. I don't want a show-down but this elephant in the room is squashing my life!
Surely he is entitled to be called what he wants not what she wants?
We think this is so her birth father doesn't get angry with the little one (or daughter) if she should refer to him as Grandpa in years to come. (He's still the same bully as ever)
We don't see them very often as they are 160 miles away.
Has anyone else had this problem and if so how did you resolve it?

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