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Thoughts please !

(113 Posts)
Hithere Thu 21-Oct-21 01:08:54

So the problem is that you were not picked to babysit the baby, I see.

Namsnanny Thu 21-Oct-21 01:07:58

Grannyactivist That sound horrendous for you, and the rest of your family.flowers

Hithere Thu 21-Oct-21 01:05:01

It depends on how mature and how much experience the 14 year old has, and how easy going the baby is

Lizzy60 Thu 21-Oct-21 00:52:45

grannyactivist I'm sure in days gone a 14 year old would've been left in that situation but I think we know better these days & as you say , what happened in your family tends to prove the point really . There was no need for the baby ( my precious Granddaughter ) to left in the way she was , I'm home everyday & available !

grannyactivist Thu 21-Oct-21 00:35:44

At 14 I had been in that situation dozens of times - and without access to a phone! I was sensible, would remain level headed in an emergency, and was very experienced at looking after babies.

However, also when I was 14 my four month old baby brother died of Sudden Instant Death Syndrome (‘cot death’ as it was then known). I was not alone with him at the time, but it was a traumatic event - so the risk of something untoward happening with such a young baby and no adult back-up in place makes me very uneasy.

Lizzy60 Thu 21-Oct-21 00:29:28

Namsnanny Exactly , as other people have said to me , thanks !

Namsnanny Thu 21-Oct-21 00:25:45

No. If only because if something happened I wouldn't want to burden her with the responsibility at such a young age.

It's not a can she cope, it's a she shouldn't have to cope situation.

Lizzy60 Thu 21-Oct-21 00:25:30

14 year old girl , 3 month baby left with her for 5 hours with only phone contact to baby's mother who went out for the day .
Breastfed baby , but today left a bottle with the girl to feed her .

Hithere Thu 21-Oct-21 00:20:46

Is she babysitting?

Lizzy60 Thu 21-Oct-21 00:16:49

crazyH Thank you , agreed !

Lizzy60 Thu 21-Oct-21 00:16:02

PS / Left alone for 5 hours in house , no adult present !

crazyH Thu 21-Oct-21 00:15:54

No way ! I wouldn’t even leave a 16 year old alone with a 3 month old baby ……

Lizzy60 Thu 21-Oct-21 00:13:35

Simple question here - should a 14 year old girl be left alone with a 3 month old baby (not related) & a bottle ? ( I'm looking for thoughts , clearly I don't think this is right under any circumstances ) !