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Grandchildren growing up

(39 Posts)
Grannybags Wed 17-Nov-21 11:13:08

Yes exactly!

I was working, commuting to London, when I was 15

maddyone Wed 17-Nov-21 11:10:40

Sorry, I’m so sorry, I misread the OP. I thought it said she was 12. No it’s absolutely not illegal. In fact since she was 17, there wasn’t a problem at all. Apologies.

Cabbie21 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:58:50

Exactly!

Peasblossom Wed 17-Nov-21 10:57:53

Don’t think so Maddy. At nearly 17 the granddaughter could be married and a mum!

Madgran77 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:57:44

Sorry if it was me who was quick to judge, but it is illegal to leave children alone overnight of that age.

It isn't illegal at that age

Peasblossom Wed 17-Nov-21 10:56:55

Well, I think they handled it really well. So sensible.

Shows they’ve been given responsibility and encouraged to make decisions.

And now they can?

maddyone Wed 17-Nov-21 10:53:50

Sorry if it was me who was quick to judge, but it is illegal to leave children alone overnight of that age.

Cabbie21 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:52:10

I gave the context to explain the sudden circumstances of the decision. I am interested in discussing how much freedom and responsibility is given to teenagers as they mature, not in the nitty gritty of the situation that arose.

Cabbie21 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:49:10

They had only just found out.
Sorry if I was not clear that it was the little boy who has Covid.

People are quick to judge!

Cabbie21 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:47:14

He didn’t, Aggie. It was a decision reached together.

maddyone Wed 17-Nov-21 10:46:28

They were okay as there were two of them, otherwise it would not be okay. I think the father let them down by not telling them and their mother that he was ill, so different arrangements could have been made.

aggie Wed 17-Nov-21 10:06:46

I would think they were old enough to take care of themselves , but I do think the Father should have been more on the ball and not have them turned away on the doorstep

Cabbie21 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:02:34

I should add, the main reason was to try to avoid getting Covid, as they did not want to miss out on any more schooling.

Cabbie21 Wed 17-Nov-21 10:01:01

Covid has meant that I have been less involved in my grandchildren’s lives and they are now so grown up! I have had regular doorstep visits, but it is not the same. The youngest is now 14, his sister nearly 17. Their mum often discusses what new freedoms to allow them. She is lucky that they are much less rebellious than she was!
Their parents are divorced and remarried, and they have a little half brother at their father’s house. When they arrived at their Dad’s after school on Monday, they were told he has Covid. They kept apart. After some discussion, it was decided they would go back to their mum’s. The only thing is, she and her husband were away overnight, but they agreed. They went, looked after themselves and the cats…
.My daughter did not tell me till afterwards. I guess in normal times she might have asked me to help out. I was astonished at the decision, but proud that they could cope and be trusted to do so.
I think it was a good decision. What do you think?