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Help Needed but How?

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SueDonim Sun 13-Mar-22 16:03:07

They could pay for a cleaner and the children could attend breakfast and after school clubs.

If they want help in-house, your daughter could go through an agency that supplies vetted staff.

M0nica Sun 13-Mar-22 16:02:00

Here is a link to the trade association for au pairs.
bapaa.org.uk/.

If your daughter and SiL have such high powered, high flying careers, how come they are unable to find out for themselves how to get suitable domestic staff?

DiscoDancer1975 Sun 13-Mar-22 16:00:17

Do they both need to be working? Shorten hours perhaps? It’s for them to sort out. They made these choices.

Don’t over do it yourself. You’ve had your time.

GrandmaKT Sun 13-Mar-22 15:55:14

Do they have room for an au-pair? Depending on where they live, they might find someone from abroad who could live in and maybe attend language classes during the day.

crazyH Sun 13-Mar-22 15:54:29

The phantomfinger MissA ?

MissAdventure Sun 13-Mar-22 15:46:57

Now where did those extra letters come from?

MissAdventure Sun 13-Mar-22 15:46:21

It sounds as if a nanny is what's needed.
Qq

Jaffacake2 Sun 13-Mar-22 15:41:38

There are breakfast and after school clubs after school to help for working parents. As you say they have " high flying careers " then they can afford to pay for a cleaner. There are school holiday activities which although invoke a cost are good for parents and children.
Please be careful with your own health. It is not essential that you plug all the gaps,parents need to organise themselves and take the responsibility for their children.

Lathyrus Sun 13-Mar-22 15:39:03

Trouble is, that’s the sort of job that doesn’t pay very well because it’s few hours in total. But it disrupts the day for anything else.

Probably only a stay-at-home mum who needs some extra income would consider it.

NanaPlenty Sun 13-Mar-22 15:32:45

Hi lovely people, I’m hoping some of you might have some good ideas or have been in similar situations with some wise words….My daughter (late thirties) and son in law have two children aged boy 10 and girl 8. As parents they both have increasingly high flying career roles. The children have always been well looked after but this is becoming difficult… I clean for them once a week and spend time with the children but am neither young enough or live near enough to take on any more. My daughter recognises that they need some sort of help but doesn’t know how to start or what sort of person she needs. The main areas are taking to and from school/supervision with homework and probably some help in the holidays. I feel worried that the children spend too much time on screens and occupying themselves (nothing unusual I know). I just thought I’d put it out there see if anyone has any pearls of wisdom to pass on. Thanks in advance.