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Childcare demands

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Lynette55 Thu 09-Jun-22 20:51:11

I don’t think any childminders collect from that school. It’s a bit too far out. She could get training in term time to prepare for getting a job later, or find a school hours job like many mums do. ?

Hetty58 Thu 09-Jun-22 20:47:59

She's got such a cheek to expect it. I'm sure she can make good, local childcare arrangements instead. Childminders here pick up from schools and care until the parents are back from work. Your daughter can easily afford to pay - so problem solved.

Lynette55 Thu 09-Jun-22 20:46:51

Well when you put it like that…!
She believes your “child” should always be put first! She’s 40! And clearly not actually putting her own child first!

Lynette55 Thu 09-Jun-22 20:45:21

So far I have! My other half says it’s her way of actually avoiding getting a job! “I can’t work because you won’t help me”

Bibbity Thu 09-Jun-22 20:38:59

called me selfish and that my life is all about me

"DD you say that like it's a bad thing"

midgey Thu 09-Jun-22 20:38:16

Stick to your guns! You are not being selfish at all. Keep saying no.

Lynette55 Thu 09-Jun-22 20:36:00

Hi, I’m newly retired. My last 10 years of full time work have taken their toll on both my mental and physical health. I promised myself that when I retired I’d spend the first year relaxing, sorting clutter and improving my health. So far so good!
My daughter has one child age 6. Her husband has an extremely well paid job and my D has been a stay at home mum til now. GD is at a lovely village school but from my home to school and back takes an hour. My D has decided she is now bored at home and wants a job, 2-3 days a week and seems convinced I should be jumping with joy to give her childcare on 2-3 days after school. I said I wasn’t going to commit to anything until I worked out what I wanted in my retirement. She’s called me selfish and that my life is all about me! I was a single parent when she and her brother were 6 & 4 and lived for 5 years next to my parents who did give me help, mostly in the holidays as I worked inside school hours. She doesn’t need the money but won’t consider volunteering or charity work until GD is older. I feel once I start I’ll not be able to say no! She’s very demanding and prone to emotional blackmail. Feeling very conflicted! Help!