Is it ok?

Go Home ... There is no way you can make it easy ...because its the hardest job in the world ! You will always be a grandparent ... and tbh ...nobody wants mother hovering around 24/7...
go home rest and recharge ...if you have offered to babysit ...look forward to that !

OP i think what you are describing is trauma bonding.
you need to give yourself time to rest, recover and reset.
all the best.

hi - totally normal new Gran. you have been through an intense experience and likely that’s underneath your fears
i had a similar situation and my gd is now 4. i look after her tuesdays now and we have sleepovers every now and then
she is truly my joy and we are very close.
being a grandparent is the best thing about getting older. i’m very active so we do lots of things together - hiking, swimming and skiing last winter. sure she has her moments as a 4 year old but her parents my son and dl are wonderful parents who have good boundaries and routines. relax and enjoy the journey!

I wondered when the pandemic arrived that my GS then 9 months old would forget me. I didn't see him for many months but when I did he ran to me shouting "Nana!" and we had a big cuddle.
If you share a bond and see him fairy regularly he won't forget you.

Once a week will honestly be fine. Living 60 miles away, it’s all we did with Gdd1 from 9 to 15 months - relationship has always been very close - she’s 7 now.

You sound like you are doing brilliantly. Once a week care ..like we did ...you will build a lovely relationship, please don't worry

From experience… the feeling will pass… you are so entrenched in their lives right now (and they clearly needed it) and it would be hard to step away even for a little bit.. I know I was very sad. I even cried.. it is because we are so invested..
Won’t be long and you will have your new routine and the bond will be solid. Xx

Please relax and enjoy your relationship - it is an emotional time but please think rationally

I even have a special bond with one who lives Sydney….. seen once in the last 4 years, sorry but ….

I’m with you lucca I don’t understand what the problem is
Had gallons more contact than I had and I have a good relationship with all of them

I’m so worried that my grandson won’t know me and I won’t have a relationship with him although when my daughter returns to work I’m going to be looking after him once a week so I’m looking forward to that

Sorry but I’m confused. How would you not have a relationship with him in that case?

Tbh you are spectacularly lucky.

You must be physically and emotionally so tired. Don’t worry about bonding at all.
Get some rest and sleep and it’s likely your worries will diminish
Congratulations to all of you
How lucky your daughter and son-in-law law are to have youx

I live 200 miles from my DGC. We stayed a couple of days after each birth and then every six weeks - 2 months since.

They are now 12 and 15 and we have a close relationship.

I think this belief people have that if they do not see their DGC on a weekly, if not daily basis, they will not 'bond' is a lot of nonsense.

As a child i did not see my grandparents for three years when my father was working overseas. All this before modern communications, even phone calls were crippling expensive. It in no way interfered with the close and loving relationship I had with my maternal grandmother. My paternal grandmother didn't much like me, so it made no difference there, either

My granddaughter lives in Manhattan and we live in Michigan. It takes 12 hours to drive or 2 by plane . We see here 4 times a year and facetime every week. Wecsoendc10 days with them in the summer in Nantucket. I also send her little packages. We have a wonderful relationship and she loves her Grandmama and Grandpapa. They will be moving to London for a few years and my son will be bringing us over every 4 months. Plus they will be back in Nantucket for the summers. I do wish they lived around the corner, but our children have their own lives like we did.

Congratulations on your new grandson, and enjoy being a grandmother. Don't worry! All our DGC are at least (fortunately for us) in the same country, but we don't see them more than every few months. Little ones don't forget you, and can recognise you from an early age. Ask your DD and SIL to mention you to your grandson if he isn't going to see you for a while, but if you are looking after him once a week, you have absolutely no problem!!

You sound like a lovely mum and gran STRAWBERRYGIRAFFE....and have been a great support to your family....In your heart you know what you have to do step back and let them be their own family....Your daughter will also know that you have to get back to your own life...You've got years ahead to spend with your precious grandson...I'm sure you'll have a very strong bond with him....

Thank you

At this age it won't affect your bond even if you don't see your grandchild for a few weeks. Our first grandchild was born in another country- we visited after a month and stayed a week. After that, we saw her about 4 times a year but have a great relationship- she's nearly 7 now.

A friend's daughter had twins, and friend stayed for a few days initially, then a couple of days a week for some months. After that, less often - like you she felt she had to let parents figure it out.

I looked after MzOops for several weeks as she had to have total bed rest, babyOops arrived premature, I was there at the birth, so I stayed with them for 6 weeks, to help at night and for feeds as she didn’t have the ‘sucking’ mechanism sorted, then for 3 weeks I stayed but went home at the weekends.

When I was told that they were all ok and could cope I was exhausted, pleased to be going home, but I cried all the way in the Taxi to Paddington Station! I need ent have worried because every month they came and stayed for a week. The closeness of us and the Oopsies has continued for 18 years.

Emotional , exhausted but well done for being there for them.

Thank you. And yes I’m sad as I don’t want tot go home and leave my daughter and him.
Just feeling a bit emotional I guess. It’s been a very tough few weeks.

First of all, congratulations on your miracle grandbaby!

I can't offer advice from experience, as I am not yet a gran, (and between us if it happens I am more likely to be the paternal one, with parents and baby 120 miles away and other gran round the corner).

Bearing in mind my total lack of experience, I suspect that what you are experiencing is perfectly normal, as that close relationship will evolve from the way it is now, when the baby is entirely dependent through various stages until one day the next generation comes along. With hindsight, I could grieve for each of those stages with my own children, but when we live them for the first time we don't notice. We can't know that we have held their hand to cross the road for the last time, or that it is the last time they'll snuggle into our bed on a Saturday morning in case there is a monster in their room, but we know now how many of those 'last times' there were, and can predict them with grandchildren.

The difference is that grandparents are armed with that knowledge, and know that for every last time there will be a new first. Try to keep that in mind, and enjoy the baby

What do you think you're sad about? You have had / will continue to have a lot of contact. Is it that you don't want to go home and leave him?