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Grand daughter starting secondary school

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Quilty Wed 03-Aug-22 16:30:15

Our dgd is starting secondary school in September. We would like to buy her something to commemorate the occasion.
Suggestions please?

4allweknow Fri 05-Aug-22 14:43:05

Will give money to help with school uniform for GS. At primary he had at least 3 jumpers. This year starting secondary he has 1. He commented to his Dad he only had one jumper. The reply was that with the cost of that 1 jumper he may well have it glued into his blazer to prevent it being lost!

Grammaretto Fri 05-Aug-22 14:21:22

I'm always trying to get my DGC away from their phones so love to bombard give them something personal such as hand-knitted sweaters or money towards a school trip or sports gear. They've never complained and my eldest DGC has just left school and is about to begin 6th form college.

vegansrock Fri 05-Aug-22 12:11:04

They’d use a new phone more or a new case for it if you can’t run to a new phone. No, I didn’t know it was a thing to buy presents for a new school either. Mine have missed out!

knspol Fri 05-Aug-22 11:54:06

GD started secondary school last year she said nobody in her class uses fountain pens, they all use trendy sorts of roller ball pens.
Perhaps take her out for an afternoon and maybe buy her some of the things she'll need like pencil case etc or even a couple of items of uniform or sports kit which would also help out parents as an expensive time for them.

JadeOlivia Fri 05-Aug-22 11:48:58

How about a watch? Funds for a school trip/ outing?
Ask her ....she' ll probably know exactly !! Or maybe wait until first half term to see if there is anything she would like ?

Susieq62 Fri 05-Aug-22 11:36:29

Start a trust fund ! She will need it!!

ElaineBK Fri 05-Aug-22 11:19:04

My granddaughter is also starting secondary school. I have bought a personalised photo frame, with her name and school at top and date at foot of frame

Nannashirlz Fri 05-Aug-22 11:18:16

My granddaughter and step grandson are both starting high school I got them both a personalised card with names date school etc on them and my granddaughter I bought her a gold necklace with her name on it and them both a personalised socks lol off not on the high street my grandson is also starting nursery I got him the same

NanKate Wed 03-Aug-22 22:31:25

Our eldest DGS starts secondary school in September his dad bought him a nice watch and a wallet. Knowing him he will have lost the wallet in the first week. ?

Grammaretto Wed 03-Aug-22 22:03:11

I must be the meanest grannie. I didn't give them anything.
My 4yr old DGD is about to begin school in a couple of weeks.
She washed her hands at mine using lavender and geranium handwash and said she would wash her hands often if she had that! So 3 guesses what she's getting.grin

Joseanne Wed 03-Aug-22 21:55:09

I'm sure our worth as grandparents isn’t measured by the gifts we give. Maybe the OP doesn't see her DGD often and wants to have the opportunity to buy her something special. Either way, no one needs to feel guilty.

Callistemon21 Wed 03-Aug-22 21:46:17

Zoejory

ElaineI

Never thought this was a thing! We give the parents money towards shoes, uniform etc.

Oh thank goodness! We're the same.

I was beginning to think we were evil grandparents!

I don't give money towards shoes or uniform!!
I would if needed of course.

However, the right bag (!) is something which might be an expense too far for the parents.

Zoejory Wed 03-Aug-22 21:29:34

ElaineI

Never thought this was a thing! We give the parents money towards shoes, uniform etc.

Oh thank goodness! We're the same.

I was beginning to think we were evil grandparents!

annodomini Wed 03-Aug-22 21:15:25

I once worked in a comprehensive which told children that they must use fountain pens! I got fed up with the naughty ones making inky fingers an excuse to leave the room and 'wash my hands, miss!' Against the school rules I said that I wouldn't allow fountain pens in my classroom and had no complaints - with the exception of the trouble makers who had lost their excuse for getting out of the classroom.
So my recommendation is: forget the fountain pen. A good set of roller-balls, which are easily replaced when someone 'borrows' them.

ElaineI Wed 03-Aug-22 20:58:36

Never thought this was a thing! We give the parents money towards shoes, uniform etc.

LadyStardust Wed 03-Aug-22 20:43:43

I worked in a secondary school for a while and I never ever saw anyone using a fountain pen!! Can you still actually buy them? Rollerball pens seem to be the most popular. Parker do some lovely ones but the chances of it getting lost at school are pretty high! Mostly girls here seem to have oversized tote bags for school. Maybe a voucher for a high street shop so she can choose her own? I do like the journal idea though. One that locks so nobody can pry!! smile

Jaxjacky Wed 03-Aug-22 20:24:14

Same Callistemon21

Callistemon21 Wed 03-Aug-22 20:08:57

Jaxjacky

Ours wanted a specific brand of rucksack, we bought and gave it with pleasure.

Yes, mine too.

I let her choose it herself as it had to be the right shape and size.

Kim19 Wed 03-Aug-22 19:41:16

Would it be out of the question to ask her if there's something she would really like to mark the occasion? Perhaps you want it to be a total surprise.

Mattsmum2 Wed 03-Aug-22 19:36:55

My son has just graduated from uni. I bought him a patio set, chairs, table, parasol etc! ?

silverlining48 Wed 03-Aug-22 19:33:07

When they started school I ordered coloured and ordinary pencils with names engraved. Not sure they were ever used.

My gd started senior school last year and though no needlewoman I made a large drawstring bag out if her school dress, using pockets fir extra storage and fitted out the teddy we got her when she was Born with a mini school uniform, simple skirt and top with a little bag. It will be a nice memory fir her in future of her old school dress.

Septimia Wed 03-Aug-22 18:36:53

We've bought our GD a Parker fountain pen and ballpoint, both engraved with her name. Expensive enough to be nice, but not so much that they couldn't be replaced if necessary.

Whether she uses them or not is up to her! But we thought they acknowledged that she's growing up (unfortunately!!).

Joseanne Wed 03-Aug-22 18:31:10

It's a couple of years before my eldest GC starts secondary school, but I will remember this thread and all the lovely suggestions. Thank you Quilty and everyone.

kittylester Wed 03-Aug-22 18:10:25

No 5 is about to start secondary school gg - the novelty has worn off. She might get a card!!

pandapatch Wed 03-Aug-22 18:04:06

My grandson is 4 and starting big school. I would like to buy him a present but he already has everything a small boy starting school could possibly need. I offered to buy him a pencil case when we were in a shop the other day, but he assured me he already 2 and asked if he could have a dinosaur instead ( he has about 202 of those!!)