I come from a alcoholic household. My father was the alcoholic and my mother was the co-dependent and raised me and my two sisters to all be co-dependent as well. In my family, I was often called selfish and a brat for simply expressing my feelings and needs. For clarity one time, when I was 20 in 2009, I was trying to explain I was aggravate that my sister would brake a rule and my mom would lose her temper and brake my sisters cell phone in half as punishment and then my sister would get a new phone later. Asking why she gets a new phone. My mom got angry at me for stating this behavior made no sense. Her reaction was to picked up my small night stand a throw it and call me a selfish bitch. Which again makes no sense. Now many years later I am an adult with a full time job and my own family, trying to do better, brake the cycle of abuse and be a non co-dependent person. Of course life is hard and always throws me curve balls and problems to fix. When I try to tell my mom or older sister these issues, they always ask if I have done X,Y, or Z. Being the hyperventilate problem solved they raised me to be, it upsets me that they do not see me as a adult that can fix her own problems. I explained that I am just look to express my feelings not solutions. They say that is not a conversation, is ridiculous and I am being a brat and asking too much. So am I the asshole?
