This place

I remember reading your original post asking for advice.
The subject of children and dogs always will divide the audience!!
As with most forums, you get a variety of people with differing opinions. I read more than post but find this forum quite fair and very informative at times.
Don’t let it put you off posting.

I'm sorry that your experience of GN hasn't been a positive one Adgm. I agree that some of the responses were harsh and judgemental, but some were supportive and understanding which I hope you found helpful .

Maybe you hit Gransnet on a bad day but so far I find it supportive. It is a safe place.
It was sad to read today on another topic that there are a few posters who get joy from hurting others. Don't let them bother you, they must be insensitive or miserable.

Oh dear - when people don’t get the response they hoped for?
“Not nice” ? “Cranky and rude”
Of course this isn’t a TAAT but the replies I read were practical, sensible and generally born out of experience as dog- owning grandparents.

Perhaps we need a norty corner forum.

You did get some positive responses when you first posted my advice take the responses that you felt informed you. The responses that gave you food for thought.. these are the responses that will help you with the problem you posted about.
Don’t be put off by any posts you don’t quite agree with and accept that everyone has a different opinion. We come from all walks of life and don’t all share the same experience in life.

Adgm, I'll always say exactly what I think - on forums or in everyday life. What do you want exactly? Sympathy and understanding?

It seemed to me that you utterly failed to take responsibility and protect the dogs and kids from each other. You preferred to blame the parents instead. I think my criticism was justified, my suggestions useful.

The vast majority of responses I see on GN are both positive and supportive, and even where there is disagreement about an opinion, the grown-ups here do appear to be capable of simply stating this without making it personal and descending into condescension/sarcasm/denigration, or even in extreme cases, personal abuse. GN do seem to be switched on to the few naughty kiddiwinks amongst us, and do selectively remove posts, or even with repeat offenders, flourish the red card. My own approach is to studiously avoid engaging with anyone who appears to be incapable of entering into a discussion without personalising it. Just ignore, move on, and leave them to deal with their own baggage.

So many people start threads asking for advice but they only want to hear views which are in agreement with theirs and are incapable of seeing any opposing view as constructive advice.

I think gransnet just reflects the big variety of different views that we have in society and if you post because you want people to agree with you or justify something you really know you can't ....then you will have to be prepared for Grans disagreeing with you.. on the whole if people are genuinely distressed about something I've seen that they are met with support, compassion and a lot of wisdom

not sure that suggesting someone thinks more of their dogs than their GC is constructive advice.

... but it could be true.

There was nothing from the OP to suggest that it might be true M0nica. Much better to base one's responses on what we've been told rather than create a back story.

Surely we are all aware that opinions will vary on any subject imaginable. Posting on a public forum will reflect that. If you post an OP with the expectation that people will all respond the way you feel is acceptable, then posting on public forums may not be for you. Remember that even the “worst” responses are only as impactful as you allow them to be. We are all random strangers on the internet. Nothing written here should have much effect on our real lives.