Granddaughter bitten by other kid

VioletSky

Children are vaccinated against tetanus

but that's not the only risk, is it.
there are all kinds of germs in people's mouths.
and not all children are properly vaccinated.
i would take any bite that breaks the skin to a doctor.
better safe than sorry.

As grandparents we have to let our children deal with any issues to do with our grandchildren. We made the rules for our own children when they where growing up and I would never welcome any input from their grandparents. It's the parents who make the rules and bring their children up the way they want. As grandparents we have to respect and obey the rules they set.

They aren't our children but our grandchildren there's a big difference. I follow the rules set by my daughter and son in law. Children need that continuity .

I remember marching back to school with my daughter - who had been bitten. (Oh, that poor headmaster - I was so hopping mad.)

The 'playground lady' had (apparently) said 'Oh, never mind, she doesn't understand, she's deaf' rather than confront the biter.

I demanded that the kid apologise - as any ten-year-old should be aware that it's wrong.

Still, my autistic grandson was almost 'expelled' from playgroup for biting - but, of course, a lot younger - as it took him a while to understand and stop doing it.

Children are vaccinated against tetanus

why wouldn't the treatment be the same for a broken skin bite caused by a child. ?

DGS2 friend is a biter. He is 5 and at nursery but is autistic. DGD bit her brother when she was 2 but never again. Children do this and 5 is very young. My only issue with biting is that in adults, broken skin from a bite means antibiotics, tetanus and possibly other vaccinations (I don't mean if a child bites you but an adult). Had to deal with this occasionally when nursing.

They are a little bit on the old side for this, but every toddler class has biting. Sometimes your child gets bitten and sometimes your child is the biter. Most are parents are just relieved to hear their child isn’t the biter. It sounds like it’s been acknowledged and both sides of parents are on the same page.

I picked my GS up from school a couple of weeks ago and he told me he had been bitten by another boy during a PE lesson. He rolled up his sleeve and showed me the teeth marks. As his mum was at work and I was the one who had picked him up I rang the school to find out what had happened so that I could tell his mum when she collected him. Usually when there has been an incident or an injury of any kind the teacher or teaching assistant bring out a slip of paper or speak to parents directly but for some reason this hadn’t happened. My GS was ok and the boy was asked to apologise the next day, not very nice though!

My 2yr old was bitten by another 2 yr old in front of my eyes at toddler group.
She was riding a vehicle he wanted. It worked as she came screaming to me.
After consoling her I went to find his DM who was smoking a cigarette outside.
I told her hoping she would supervise her DS. Instead she came back in, caught hold of him and smacked his face!
This will have been 20 minutes after the biting incident.
I never went back there

nanna8

It is more something a 3 year old might do, not a 5 year old. The mother should complain about it and the child should at least be told ,firmly, that that is just not on.

I disagree. My DGS has just turned 5. He bit a child at school a couple of months ago. The school dealt with it, although obviously we also handled it at home.

He had a very hard transition from nursery to reception and both his mum, I and the school had met up many times talking about how best to cope with his struggle prior to this event. He is quite aware of 'The Rules' (which are generally no violence, kindness to others, no verbal insults) but occasionally, gives in to his boisterous side.

He's a child. Violence is never acceptable, but going over the top with punishments and treating him like an adult will only have an adverse effect. He's on a behaviour chart (at our request, not a requirement of the school) and responds much better to positive reinforcement than to a punative response.

It's not very nice but children lash out at times

It doesn't mean the other child is bad and it doesn't mean it will happen again

They are just 5 with lots to learn and lots of social and emotional development to come

Mum should make sure the school is aware and you should let her handle this

I’m not aware any of my grandchildren have been bitten, but my son was twice, both by children he was very close with.
My best friend, whose daughter bit him at nursery was mortified, my other friend I never told, I actually saw that happen, my son was upset for a few minutes, then they just carried on playing.
It’s certainly horrible, but don’t over react.

My 4yr old grandson was bitten on his face and it left a mark me and his other grandparents weren’t happy it was more shock when we saw it. My son went up to the school and complained and so did the other parents as 4 children were bitten on the same day. Turned out the child should have been in a special school and used to have their own assistant but due to shortages council had put them in this one. Said child as since being put into a different nursery. Grandson no longer being bitten and going to school happy. I understand you being upset but it’s like everyone else says you have to sit on your hands and leave it to the parents lol

If your daughter asks for your advice, then give it, but otherwise please don't involve yourself in this.

Your daughter is justified in mentioning the incident to her daughter's teacher, if she /he is not already aware of it, and mentioning that the other child's mother seems not to care about what happened.

IMO your daughter would also be justified in telling her daughter not to play with the other girl again, but that is her decision not mine or yours.

Unless there are other circumstances apart from this one bite - you are making a big deal out of nothing

The mother already addressed it, may what else would you recommend?

The child’s parents and the school would have dealt with it. If it was your grandchild that had done the biting, as many do, you would not have wanted a big deal made out of it.

In the nicest way, this is not your business and not worth making a fuss about.

I agree - it's up to the parents to deal with this, not the grandparents. However, if I was picking up my GC from school and they told me they'd been bitten by another child, I would make a point of speaking to the teacher there and then, just in case they weren't aware of the incident.

Yes, it's up to the parents and the school to sort out.

Children have usually grown out of biting by this age, yes they have, but how would I react? I'd say "Oh dear, but at least the other little girl knew it was wrong because she said sorry".

While you're getting upset and annoyed, the two little girls are probably the best of friends again.

Quite simply, leave it to the parents. So in answer to your question as to how other Grannies would handle this, personally, I wouldn't...

DGS2 bitten on his cheek at Nursery. Both sets of parents informed, bite treated and the incident logged. Other child said sorry.
Best left like that, I think.

My grandson was bitten by another child at playgroup and he subsequently bit another boy at nursery. The playgroup dealt with it and the nursery dealt with it. Children do bite. My dd spoke to dgs1 and reiterated that you don't bite. She repeats it from time to time. I have never got involved. Why would I? My daughter is perfectly capable of handling it herself. Why do you feel you need to get involved?

I am surprised the five year old did not tell her teacher; perhaps she did and the school dealt with it or perhaps she was satisfied because the other girl apologised. Either way, not the business of the grandmother; leave it to the parents.

It is more something a 3 year old might do, not a 5 year old. The mother should complain about it and the child should at least be told ,firmly, that that is just not on.

It depends how involved Gigi is with her granddaughter .Ours lives with us and if it happened again I would contact the school.

Grannies don’t need to deal with this Gigi. It’s up to the parents.