I’m new here and, evidently new to grand parenting though I have two grandsons (7 and 9) that I live near and have helped with since they were born. My DD and I have always had a good relationship.
Last week I made a fatal error. I read somewhere on this forum yesterday that grandmothers should not offer unsolicited advice. Too late! I had been pretty good about that and following the parents’ rules, letting them take responsibility for discipline and so on.
But when a younger girl (4 or 5) kept taking things my grandson (7) was trying to work with, something that had gone on all Spring at older brother’s baseball games, only when parents were not looking, I finally said something about it to DD. Unfortunately, knowing DD loves this child, I also made a huge blunder when I used a B word to describe the behavior that I wouldn’t normally use. Needless to say, DD was shocked and hurt.
I apologized later, but I feel like I cannot say anything at all now. My question is, have I ruined this relationship? I don’t want to attend any more sports events. I never felt like I fit in. The other grandmother raised three boys and is perfectly comfortable attending, but she and her hubby sit away from the bleachers. Now, I think I know why. Also, I have been forcing myself to go to games in the heat, where I was miserable because I have diabetes. Heat raises my blood sugar terribly. My doctor told me a couple of years ago not to go, but I’m always expected to go to support my grandson (9). I don’t think he cares. He knows I love him.
My birthday is coming up, too. Last year, my older DD took us all on vacation for that. But I don’t even want to be with younger D et al now. What do I do?
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