Hi I am struggling with my adult son who has two children they live in Canada, I live in the Uk. He used to ring me once a week but unfortunately didn’t see the importance of me seeing my grandchildren & talking to them regularly .
Unfortunately he stopped ringing 18months ago. I have asked him on a number of occasions if we could arrange a good time to speak to my grandchildren, he just says he is too busy. The only time he spoke to me was when he told me what to buy my grandson for his birthday. It was quite an expensive gift but I agree as it’s for my grandson.
My daughter in laws parents are with them a lot going on holidays with them celebrating birthdays & Christmas’s.
My ex husband & wife also have a lot more to do with them.
My son tells me I haven’t done anything to hurt them just too busy to talk.
My grandchildren won’t understand why they don’t see me. I just feel they are going to think I don’t care.
It hurts so much I am not sure what to do.
My relationship with my sons always used to be good especially as I was a single mum it was hard. They saw their father treat me disrespectfully& now my son does this & his children witness this.
My other son is thoughtful & caring he also lives in another continent but rings me regularly.
I love them both very much but feel it’s not reciprocated by one son.
My relationship with my dil is not warm she rather just ignore me. I haven’t had any arguments with her she is just very cold.
Any advice would be good , one friend has suggested I try & forget my son. I am not sure I can do this!
Is anyone else treated like this by their adult children?
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