losing my three granddaughters and I'm crushed

I am sorry you won't have the same bond you did but there are lots of ways to stay in touch these days

Try not to put too much of this on your children and grandchildren. They will be very stressed with such a big move

Time to write that bucket list and do lots of interesting things to tell them about when you see them

I'm sorry you feel like this davmalk but I agree with Hithere your life should not centre on your grandchildren like this, it's too much to lay on them. They are relocating in the same country so you will be able to visit quite easily. A lot of us on here do not have that luxury. You have been a good support to your family but now it's time to let them go and enjoy your own life with your wife.

We were in the same position as you just 4 years ago. It was terribly hard on us at the time so I do understand. Nothing that anyone can say will take away what your feeling so go ahead and grieve a bit when you must. Then try to pull yourself together. Be strong and positive for the sake of the gc and their parents and you will all get through. Start making plans to visit Tennessee, it's such a beautiful part of the country.

After ours moved we were able to make just one visit before covid changed everything. We kept in touch with regular video calls and I spent a lot of time putting together packages with special things for each gc for all holidays and birthdays. Putting those packages together sort of kept me sane many times when my heart was especially hurting.

Everything changes and we have to adapt. Though I still miss them so, it does get easier with time.

You have been very blessed having so much contact with your grandchildren in their formative years. Now, just as we do with our own children, you need to let them fly from your nest to enjoy their new life with their parents.

You have not lost them at all. What an idea! Be proud and happy about your input into their lives and don't spoil their move by appearing so distraught.

You need to get a grip on this ! You are certainly not losing your granddaughters , they are moving with their parents. Sorry to seem harsh but on the face of it your behaviour is unnecessary, unless we are not getting the full story.

My son and family live on the other side of the world.
You will cope once you get over the shock.
Don't lay your grief on the family.

It’s a shock, it’s upsetting, but you’re in the same country for goodness sake you…. will see them You ve given them love time and a big chuck of your life nothing lasts for ever My son wife 2 grandkids live the other side of the world!!
Why do you feel you and your wife have raised them from new borns ? Their parents raise them and if we re lucky we get a little bit of time to help along the way
They aren’t you’re children you had your turn with your own children now it’s the parents turn
wish them well with a smile plastered on your face and start face timing but not to make them feel sad or guilty to let them know you’re so excited for their new life and can’t wait to hear all about it

You say you and your wife have raised these three children from newborn to now. Have they never lived with their parents? If that’s so, then it will be a steep learning curve for everyone but even so, they’re not moving to Mars, they’re just moving across country. You’d be best off facilitating the family to have a happy future together and finding yourself some friends more your own age, instead of depending on three small children who in case cannot be your friend.

Good luck to the family on their move.

I thought on reading the title that they had died. Of course you can handle it.

I understand the shock

Very common mistake to put your life on hold - it will take some work to remedy that

You put all the eggs in one basket - what can you do to diversify?

Children cannot be your best friends, you are in very different age brackets and interests

Isn't your wife the love of your life?

Your language and grief is too much to put on little kids.

A very difficult time for you I recognize that........... however your lovely granddaughters have parents who have to move ! There is no choice about this , please send them on their way with all your love - that is the best gift you can give them . In time they will grow up and lead their own lives and probably have their own children, that's how it should be!
They will always remember you and the love you have for them , but right now it's time to wish them well and wave them off with a smile - good luck!

You wont lose them davmalk. You've made some wonderful memories which they'll take those with them. The relationship you've forged will never be broken.

You can facetime and see them when you're chatting to them, 'phone and or text the elder two.

I know America's a big country and I've no idea how far Tennessee is from California, but I'm sure you'll be able to fly there to see them and your daughter and her family will fly back to see you.

Some GP's have children and GC on the other side of the world and those relationships continue because the love holds them together. So don't despair, it's going to be an enormous wrench to begin with but all will be well.