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advice please

(30 Posts)
pascal30 Sat 23-Dec-23 19:00:22

is it possible for you to go to stay with either parent and spend some time in the GC's environment where your grandson could entertain himself and you could cook or make things with your grandaughter. they would both be much more relaxed.. and your DIL or son could work or do social activities

GranJan60 Sat 23-Dec-23 18:36:20

Still get on well with ex-Partner but things are still quite difficult between her and my son. They share childcare 50/50. Don’t want to take sides. DS not happy about me taking the children so “she can go off and party” but he’s reluctant to make the journey himself - admittedly difficult by public transport.

PamelaJ1 Sat 23-Dec-23 16:23:45

What was your relationship with your son’s partner? Children benefit from contact with people who love them.
Relationship breakdowns can be very acrimonious or fairly civilised. We don’t know the details of this one perhaps you could expand?

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 23-Dec-23 15:56:24

Is there a reason why your son doesn’t bring the grandchildren to visit you? Does he only have limited access to them?

GranJan60 Sat 23-Dec-23 15:48:01

My dgd is 12 and dgs 10 with ADHD. They used to live close but now moved 1.5hr away by car. DS and partner now splitting up and live separately. Rarely see DGC now because DS doesn’t bring them. DGS is tricky to deal with, probably not helped by parents’ split. He’s really only interested in computer games and football, neither of which I can do with him. Books, lego etc are “boring” so are activities such as cooking. He does like to play board games but loses it if he doesn’t win. DGD is a star though, very amenable and does help with him. Would love to see more of them but especially when weather is bad it’s a problem. Any advice please?