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"Grandparenting " course, would you go? ?

(111 Posts)
nanna8 Mon 29-Jan-24 08:36:45

No way. Ridiculous idea.

Knitandnatter Mon 29-Jan-24 08:32:54

Mollygo

No. All my adult children are (with younger ones) and have been (with older ones), quite happy with us as grandparents to their children.
Reading some comments on GN I wonder if it will be good for some parents to go and find how they should treat grandparents.

Totally agree with Mollygo. Even though my GC are almost grown up, historically it was always agreed "Nanny's house, Nanny's rules".

AC were always grateful when I was asked to step in at short notice to provide childcare etc and this occasionally meant a change to my own plans - family first and all that.

The way some AC's treat grandparents is disgraceful.

kittylester Mon 29-Jan-24 08:24:15

Surely, people discuss these things with their children.

lixy Mon 29-Jan-24 08:21:47

Advice from professionals has changed so much since my children were babies.
For example, my babies were bathed day1 in hospital whereas GD wasn't bathed for the first 2 weeks to allow the waxy covering on her skin to be absorbed.
I think I'd attend a short course so I was clued in to the present day thinking on practicalities like that.

Callistemon21 Sun 28-Jan-24 23:16:04

So if a class gives someone more confidence to grandparent happily, then I’m in. After all, these are the people keeping our families upright. The true test is in dealing with these dickheads they raised first time round.

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Shelflife Sun 28-Jan-24 22:56:01

A most definate no from me . Mollgo is correct, Some AC treat their parents appalling!!! with regard to child care. Laying down the law and expecting far too much. I hasten to add that my DD were very grateful for the care I gave their children , the youngest of which is now 5 and in school. Parents seem so dictatorial when it comes to how GP look after their children . They need to remember that the emphasis is on the two words' their children ' not ours theirs!! I enjoyed my GM duty days, lots of fun - painting , baking , shopping, stories and playing out. My DDs were very happy their children were with me. The only course I should have done was a first aid course - still might !

MaizieD Sun 28-Jan-24 22:47:48

I don't think these courses are intended for people who are already grandparents.

I think the idea is a bit weird but if people are prepared to pay and find it useful I don't see any harm in it.

I thought Eve Wiseman's article was good and her own advice was sensible.

tanith Sun 28-Jan-24 22:20:34

No my GC are mostly in their 20/30s some with children of their own I think I’ve done enough Grand parenting over the years to know what I’m doing I’ve had no complaints thus far.

Bella23 Sun 28-Jan-24 22:17:28

I like what you say Mollygo. If I had treat my parents like some children do on here I wouldn't have seen them for dust the odd times I did see them.I certainly would not have been invited to stay if I did not respect them ,their rules and their home my DD's had to to.

Mollygo Sun 28-Jan-24 22:08:42

No. All my adult children are (with younger ones) and have been (with older ones), quite happy with us as grandparents to their children.
Reading some comments on GN I wonder if it will be good for some parents to go and find how they should treat grandparents.

V3ra Sun 28-Jan-24 22:00:33

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/jan/28/what-our-parents-need-to-know-about-bringing-up-our-kids

A topical discussion article for many people on here!