Competitive other grandma

Do your own thing. A relationship with anyone, let alone a grand daughter, is based on who you are, not what you have or give.

One of my fondest memories of bonding with my DGS was on a country walk in woodland. The then 3 year old started to build what he described as a 'village from sticks'. I just stood beside him and took his instructions for the sticks he required and then found them and when he had finished he stood up took my hand and we walked on.

That sort of experience doesn't require money or education or toys or cars.

Briget
I have a lovely relationship with our sons child.

That already puts you ahead of many I’ve seen posting on GN over the years. Don’t turn it into a competition with the other grandparents. That road leads to unhappiness . Your son and Dil invited you to share a happy family time away and will pick up on your resentment no matter how well you think it’s hidden.

You mention your granddaughter as your son’s child. She is also your daughter in law’s child and if she picks up on how you feel around her mother then you could find yourself missing out on family get togethers.

a special hobby that you can share and teach to dgd as she gets older. If you don`t have a creative hobby, then learn one so that you are ready when she is older, that something very special to share with her. A shared interest is something that cannot be bought.

Sleepovers at your house, a good time for her to see you engrossed in your hobby, coming to your side to watch you then bit by bit you teach her. something she will remember her whole life

Don’t compete. My DGD spends much more time with the other gran than she does me but I have just spent the weekend with her and she was so excited to see me. The more people that love her the better in my opinion.

Don’t compete just be yourself. Loving and interested.

Gifts and holidays given to child:
" Oh how lovely I'm sure ** will enjoy that!" plus serene smile!

And find your own particular little relationship with your grandchild that they can remember....for me many moons ago it was "half an apple and half an orandw" shared with my Nana. Thee days it might be a special game, a lovely colouring book, fun baking, different fun little toys produced, face painting crayons, a particular park to visit....something they love now and other things as they grow and change 💐

Ignore it. Don't compete or try to. Build your own relationship with your grandchild. It's not worth the hassle, honestly

Yes I realize that now. Thought I would do the right thing by going but not again.

Don’t go away with them!