My son and his wife of almost 10 years are on the verge of separating. My dil comes from Venezuela but also has a US passport.
I have two much loved grandchildren a boy of 7 and a girl of 4.
Since my grandsons birth my dil has made accusations of sexual abuse against my son , my husband, a work colleague and my son again.
The first time this happened my son immediately called their GP. My grandson was 3-4 months at the time. My dil was referred to MH services and with help gradually started to recover. For a number of weeks my son couldn’t be alone with his son ( her rules) if she wanted to get her haircut nails done I had to supervise. As she progressed with her treatment she was able to accept that her son was safe with his father.
We were given rules she wanted us to abide by; grandchildren can’t sit on grandfathers lap, no sleepovers at grandparents.
We accepted our experience of being grandparents was very different to our friends. Roll on a few years and the worst has happened. My son heard his wife telling her daughter daddy had been touching her privates. The little girl was saying no mummy but she persisted saying she had photo. My son flew upstairs to ask what the hell did she think she was doing and asked to see the photo. They argued and she said she wanted a divorce, sole custody and as much money as she can get from him. A couple of days later I was looking after gs ( Easter Holidays) when he disclosed to me what had happened. He said he was telling mummy daddy hadn’t done anything but mummy wouldn’t listen. He said she’s like that with all men daddy, grandpa and Mr P a teacher at his school.
He says she wants to take him to live in another country he told me he didn’t want to go” I’ll miss my family, my school, my friends and I can’t speak Spanish!”
My son was taking annual leave as his wife had secured a new job and didn’t want to take any leave in the first month. His wife came home early afternoon which surprised him. Shortly afterwards the knock on the door came. A police officer and 2 social workers were on the doorstep. The spoke to the children alone and the my dil. They did not say anything to him. He left the house to buy the children’s dinner and called me. He was in shock and I told him to come to us after making dinner for the children.
After living like this for 7 years he is broken and can’t go on with his marriage. He loves his children desperately.
During their marriage he has worked very hard and now has a well paid position in a company where he is very respected and well liked. At weekends he took children swimming, did the washing, the ironing and tidied and cleaned the house. My grandson tells people his mum (who up ti 4 weeks ago hadn’t been working) is lazy!
For the last 2 years I took the children to and from school nearly every day. It’s a long walk and mum doesn’t drive despite my son spending £100s on driving lessons and tests.
Social worker has since said police have no concerns and subsequent conversations with children have not raised concerns.
Dil making it difficult to see children, she films him if he visits, pulls the children away when they go ago hug their daddy and tells them it’s ok don’t be afraid. I am convinced her goal is to earn enough money and flee the country.
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