Heart in knots

Let them come.

Yes, let them come and help out. Good luck to them …

I would say "how lovely that they are able to help you over this difficult patch"

Don't forget, the baby (and your daughter) can't have too much love!

What !? Am I alone in thinking this is all a bit odd! Her ' father ' had her sitting on his lap when she was in her early twenties!?? Is this post is genuine and if so why are people on GN thinking all this is ok ?

I find it all a bit odd. He had her sit on his lap! Really?!

Thank you whywhywhy , for backing me - I think the original post is a wind up. If not then something is very wrong - it's bizarre 😕!

You may well be right Shelflife , I don’t know . Sitting on a knee of a ‘father’ rings a few warning bells for me.

Agree with others here. Many questions and plenty of scepticism.

I think 20 something year olds are too old to be having new parents . Especially when they sit on the father’s knee . That’s all a bit weird . If the child is sick and they don’t care if they get sick from him then they are irresponsible.

This is another American post and sounds very very strange
I think I ll leave this alone unless the poster comes back and makes it a bit more sense of it

I wrote for help. If you have a question feel free to ask. I have have always thought this relationship my daughter has with this couple is not just wrong but strange. It helps to get others feedback. Someone said this is another strange American post? That is very unkind. Are Americans not welcome here?

Yes Americans are very welcome here but often they post over night with very weird problems that seem to be too weird to be true and often are trolls who get removed by admins ….there has been quite a spate lately
I apologise for doubting you but your story did sound very strange with a woman in her twenties sitting on a pretend grandads knee don’t you think ? I m sure you can understand why a number of posters were unsure whether you’re story was genuine or not

Relax. You can't stop this other set of "parents" coming, and honestly unless you have a serious health problem of some sort, there is not reason at all to worry about a sick baby. They may catch his cold or whatever, but they have surely had cold before now.

I too find the thought of a twenty-year old sitting on "dad's" knee odd and far from innocent, but that may just be my dirty mind. At twenty your daughter was old enough to know what she was doing. If she had been twelve you would have had the right to interfere. And if there had been something wrong in it, she would not still be seeing them, would she?

I think I would be very pleased to not have to risk catching whatever this contagious illness is. I also wonder what the illness is - seems odd that a baby can become contagious then recover and then become contagious again. Are the health agencies involved?

They sound very dodgy to me, very predatory, I would be worried about letting them have any access to child, grooming often takes place over many years, I hope to god I am wrong, but having been in a similar situation please just be very cautious about who has access to the baby

AuntieE I won't look after my granddaughter if she is sick (ill with a stomach bug) as i don't want to catch it. I have a stoma and find it difficult to deal with if I have a stomach bug. Perhaps the OP has a condition that can be affected by catching something from a child.

I thought this post was going to lead to something about abuse given the sitting on his lap info. Be grateful for being excused from childminding, you will not be subjected to possibly catching bugs.