Not liking your grandchild

fancythat

From which parent is your DGD picking up swearing?

And does the nursery give advice to the parents about how to improve her behaviour?

That’s an extremely good point. I was going to ask if she witnessing “rows” between her parents.

From which parent is your DGD picking up swearing?

And does the nursery give advice to the parents about how to improve her behaviour?

Good answers here.

You are not being unreasonable for not liking bad behaviour.
I dont think you need to feel terrible about that at all.

A 3 year old can sense when things at home are not right, without the words to talk about it, so it shows in their behaviour

The parents need to work together in as civil a way as possible.
I know children can be really naughty, but it’s really not her fault. Nor is it yours as you were having health issues when she was a baby.
She needs consistency and patience from the important adults in her life.

So sorry you have this worry. Of course you love your granddaughter. If you didn’t you wouldn’t be so distressed. I would guess that she is feeling insecure and unsure. Discipline of the right kind provides a security that we all need. There are rules and an awareness of what we can do and what we can’t do. When there is no consistency there is no certainty. Of course love should also be consistently shown but not without instilling the knowledge that good behaviour is also rewarded alongside bad benaviour.All you can do is show a consistency of love and discipline while quietly discussing the problem with the mum and dad. So sorry for you. I’m sure there is better advice available from others on here.

Often 3 year old children don’t play nicely with other children. Often they play happily beside other children.

She’s very young and could be frustrated and confused.

Is your step-son living on his own with you? Has he split up with the mother of his child?

To be honest the “issue” really appears to be the parents and their parenting not being on the same page.

We all know how manipulative children can be and from a very young age.

How old is your GD mum? What’s her story? Why was the wedding called off?

I think you’re right about not forming the same relationship with GD as GS, but that’s really not your fault.