Welcome Skippy50. Due to my mother's obvious favouritism towards my brother, I have always tried very hard to be fair to my two daughters and their families, which is probably easier than your situation of a son and a daughter. They don't seem to be jealous, but when they all visit me with their 3 children each, I find myself trying really hard to devote the same amount of time and attention to each one. It can be quite wearing! You are doing your best so don't beat yourself up over the fallings out, it is their problem, not yours. This welcome thread doesn't get many readers, so may I suggest you start a new discussion under 'Relationships' or 'Grandparenting' to attract more replies? You will find plenty of members in the same boat 