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Welcome to the *Gransnet Café. This is a non-judgemental space for you to pop in for a cuppa with some virtual friends, seek out advice for a particular problem, or share an update on your life - important or trivial. Feel free to have your say and chat about your day, but please leave any arguments at the door. If you're struggling to find someone to talk to in real life, or are simply looking for a bit of a chat, this is the place for you.

Welcome to new members

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LaraGransnet (GNHQ) Wed 16-Sept-15 14:24:57

If you're new to Gransnet please do make yourself a brew and come introduce yourself on this thread. Hope you enjoy chatting in the forums and that you find it useful, informative, supportive and entertaining. smile

Saralou18 Sun 09-Apr-17 09:18:14

I'm a new member, I've been looking at GN for a while but only just started to contribute.
Enjoy the sunshine everyone

Oldcroc17 Fri 07-Apr-17 16:13:22

Thank you shysal . Yes I'm new and enjoying the website and forums very much.
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shysal Fri 07-Apr-17 11:07:23

Are you a new member Oldcroc17? If so, welcome flowers. There is a lot on here to interest anyone whether a grandparent or not. Enjoy!

Oldcroc17 Fri 07-Apr-17 10:25:53

Sorry to hear that Treehugger1973 At the moment it seems that many of my friends are becoming or are grandparents, whereas my children have said they're not interested in having children. I live in hope but it's not the end of the world by any means. However, I'm delighted for my friends and always want to know how the children / pregnancy is doing. It does seem your friends may be jealous or just not interested in others, just themselves. I just wanted you to know how your friends should be behaving if they're true friends.

shysal Wed 05-Apr-17 09:01:37

Welcome, lobelia, if you are new. You are amongst a growing number of members in your situation, hope you will find support on the relevant threads. flowers

lobelia44 Tue 04-Apr-17 18:10:54

It's an ongoing situation with my daughter, lost touch with GC, no cards of any description over the last 6 to 7 yrs. " no contact" allowed. But good to know we are not the only ones in this situation!

Treehugger1973 Thu 30-Mar-17 10:01:24

Thank shysal for the advice I have done that. Even managed to copy and paste!!

shysal Thu 30-Mar-17 09:40:46

Welcome Treehugger1973 flowers. Some of your friends do not sound like true friends. They should be delighted for you. May I suggest the same for you as I did for Skippy50 (above), that starting a new discussion will get a better response. I know I have read similar problems on here before.

shysal Thu 30-Mar-17 09:35:48

Welcome Musicelf flowers. I hope you will enjoy GN. Indeed Christmas must be expensive for you, but hopefully it brings lots of fun with it.

shysal Thu 30-Mar-17 09:32:39

Welcome Skippy50. Due to my mother's obvious favouritism towards my brother, I have always tried very hard to be fair to my two daughters and their families, which is probably easier than your situation of a son and a daughter. They don't seem to be jealous, but when they all visit me with their 3 children each, I find myself trying really hard to devote the same amount of time and attention to each one. It can be quite wearing! You are doing your best so don't beat yourself up over the fallings out, it is their problem, not yours. This welcome thread doesn't get many readers, so may I suggest you start a new discussion under 'Relationships' or 'Grandparenting' to attract more replies? You will find plenty of members in the same boat flowers

Treehugger1973 Thu 30-Mar-17 09:23:59

Hi there - new to this but would just like to put something out there.
My daughter is expecting my first Grandchild in the summer and amongst my friends/acquaintances/colleagues I am one of the first to be here. I am mindful not to turn in to Nanny-to-be bore as I am very aware that until you are in this position it is of very limited interest to some! However, one or two of my closest friends have been disinterested in the extreme. In a way that I have found quite surprising. I have confided in a more interested friend who feels there may be an element of jealousy - not something I was expecting,I am curious to know if anyone else has had a similar experience. Thank you

Musicelf Wed 29-Mar-17 23:19:38

Hello to all fellow grans. I'm grandmother to three, plus step-grandmother to another 9.......Christmas tends to be very expensive! They range from 16 down to 1, including a pair of twins. To be honest, my husband and I are estranged from his three children (very sad, very long story) but we still send to the grandchildren.

I'm known as Nana to my daughter's 3, and Nannie to everyone else.

Skippy50 Wed 29-Mar-17 21:58:58

Sadly my daughter has tried over the past 2 years during their pregnancies & aft5the boys were born to invite /involve her sil.but with little response from her.I feel I'm made to feel guilty for spending time with my daughter & my daughter now resents her sil for her demands. I think my sil wants the close relationship I have with my daughter but makes no effort. She also has made comments to my other daughter asking her if she feels about me spending time with jer sister? & how does she think her sister will react when she has a baby? (she trying for a baby ) . It's so hard because I can understand it must be difficult for my dil both my daughters & i are close & they are as sisters. but my son my youngest has never been close to his sisters or his father & i as he's got older. We do have family gatherings but week always feel we are being watched by son & dil on which grandson we pay attention to its not relaxed atmosphere. Our dream & my daughter wants same is for the boys to grow up together. I hope we can get through this & that happens.but atpresent he wont speak to us.Is blaming his sister & she's now not prepared to speak to him. (She gets married in 5 weeks & nephew is a pageboy)omg! !! So my other daughter and i are trying to get some resolution with my son .wish me luck ill neef it ?

Jalima Wed 29-Mar-17 20:11:34

so close!!

Jalima Wed 29-Mar-17 20:11:21

How lovely to have them to close in age - is there any reason why your DD and DIL can't have a get together at your house with the babies, or at each other's and invite you?
Probably DIL does not feel that she can just pop in to your house, after all, it was not her home when she was growing up but it was your DD's home (presumably).

Keep everyone happy!

Skippy50 Wed 29-Mar-17 19:23:25

Hi there
I've just joined & I am seeking advice. I have 2 wonderful grandchildren born within 3 weeks of each other. In my naivety I thought this would be wonderful but the past 18 months have been difficult. I see my daughter and grandson more often than my son . dil & grandson. My daughter calls round frequently but my son & dil don't. But things have come to a head & my son says they feel their son is being left out. Although we have our grandson once a month overnight & have babysat more for them than our daughter's son. This is causing a big family rift. I text .call & have asked them to call round but get little or no response. with their expectation we will go to them. I feel guilty for spending time woth my daughter. Anyone else experiencing similar?
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Nonnanue Wed 29-Mar-17 19:16:45

I am no beauty in the traditional sense Shysal, but believe the feeling I have ever time I see the smiles on my grandchildrens' faces makes me feel like I blossom on the inside and that is where my beauty lies smile

shysal Mon 27-Mar-17 08:52:47

Hi Nonnanue, welcome flowers. I wouldn't class myself as beautiful by any stretch of the imagination, but I am a Nan! I hope you will enjoy all that GN has to offer.

Nonnanue Sun 26-Mar-17 22:49:21

Hi there beautiful Grans. I joined a couple of weeks ago and just found this forum.

Hope you all had a wonderful day. flowers

shysal Sun 26-Mar-17 18:18:02

How right you are MOlly12! I often count my blessings when I read of others' health and relationship problems. I hope you will enjoy the light hearted side of GN too. Welcome flowers!

MOlly12 Sun 26-Mar-17 18:05:44

Just joined today and have enjoyed reading other people's problems, makes me realise how lucky I am.

Karanlouise Thu 23-Mar-17 18:36:13

Oops should of said "they look very content" blush smile

Karanlouise Thu 23-Mar-17 18:35:01

Hello Granylyn65 nice to meet you and the lads. Lovely photo, they looking very content. smile

shysal Wed 22-Mar-17 08:58:15

Grannylyn, your lads look lovely. There is no togetherness between my cats, when not teasing each other they live separate lives, I have only once got a photo of the two together! On the whole I enjoy living alone, I have become used to doing what I want when I want, which is great! smile

grannylyn65 Wed 22-Mar-17 08:35:53

The lads !