Soops cosy kitchen for kind peoples and precious pets !

ann I'd just written quite a lengthy reply about NHS and Social Services needing their heads knocked together sometimes (IMO ). Also some information about Attendance Allowance and Council Tax that you may not have. It's all gone now as my internet connection crashed! Thankfully annodomini has sent you a link so I won't repeat it all. If you need help contact Carers UK or CAB (other organisations are available too, such as Age UK )

Good luck and let us know how you get on ((hugs))

Thanks Maw, yes I did get your reply. I agree with you. The only hospital department that my DH has not been to is gynaecology........I'm not counting it out yet

annsixty I have sent you a pm with a link to your local adult services provision. Hope it gives you some information that will prove helpful to both you and OH.

kitty, a friend who died last year told her family to wear turquoise to her funeral. I wish I had known as a lovely seldom-worn pashmina I have would have been appropriate. Your outfit sounds just right - nothing that cannot be worn later from day to day.

I've got the PM thanks crafting Just wondering if my reply went!

Swanny I have never had a carer's assessment and have never heard of it or been told about it. I will enquire thank you. We had very little input from the memory clinic and the CPN and they passed us into the care of the GP who has shown no interest at all. It does seem a Cinderella service sadly.

I have just posted a message to maw but it's not here

I will try again.

Maw sorry I haven't replied before. I did not get on GN yesterday and have only just logged in tonight. I have PM'd you (sorry, it took me a while to figure out how to do it ). Hope you receive it ok.

soop sorry to hear about MacS accident. I do hope he is ok.

Dear ann have you had a Carer's Assessment recently? Have a look here for information. This is for you to get the help you obviously need, regardless of whether your husband thinks he needs it. You can ask one of the local council's assessors to visit and complete the form with you, and make sure you tell them worst case scenarios - not that you can sometimes manage but that you always find it difficult and it's getting harder. Carers UK is a good organisation and there is probably a branch near you. Of course you may well know all this and have even been in touch but it's worth asking again. If you weren't there who would look after him?

One especially for charleygirl just to prove the eyes do open sometimes!!
Cautiously optimistic DH is feeling perkier today. A lovely surprise phone call from a colleague of over 8 years ago (when his Lymphoma forced him to give up work) seemed to cheer him up as it was, for once, not a conversation about medical matters!!

Colourful, sunset? Grey with horizontal rain here. Looking forward to being cheered up by another photo, soop, your deer are wonderful, very well trained to pose like that . Wondering if macs needs a trip to the doctor or nurse tomorrow, his poor head definitely needs tlc, I know how my expression would have been if I was told how to apply a bandage, would love to have seen yours! Please keep safe, both of you.

Mildred, have no fear in the kitchen, nothing confrontational here. I have discovered it's a warm and welcoming place where all are welcome. Do chat to us.

So sorry there is no real help available ann. One of life's buggerations that's for sure. I'm with you anno, if there is anything that will help then go for it.

Your clothes choice sounds good to me kitty, far better to dress as yourself and feel good in your skin Hope you have had a restorative , by now.

Afraid my boomerang bug is refusing to pack its bag and leave. I've decided to take a planned ignoring approach, Taking no notice of it at all and getting on with life. See what that does, looking after it seems to just encourage it to stay. . I look forward to reporting it has gone.

Hope all is well with you both mawb, time the roller coaster came to a halt.

Mildred Us lot are not confrontational. We are here for each other through the happy-clappy times and the worrying buggerations with which we're all familiar from time to time. Some more so than others. The thing is, although we are virtual friends, we do care. It does matter that whenever we are feeling down and depressed, there is the opportunity to "let off steam." At times when stuff became too much for me, this lot have certainly helped me through some difficult times. Please don't lurk. Do join in. If I had some real I would share a slab slice. Pity is, there isn't such a thing in my cupboard. However, we pretend that there is and there's no harm in wishful thinking. Enjoy your evening. There will most likely be a colourful sunset. If so, I shall share an image of it when I visit the kitchen tomorrow.

I wish I could help Ann my husband is "slightly" deaf and I get irritated when I have say things three or four times for him to hear, which wouldn't make it on to your scale of irritation. When does the dog arrive or has it come, I know it doesn't live with you or near you but they do help release stress. Just to be clear I have been lurking for a while on GN reading the posts but have been wary of talking too much as I don't do aggression/confrontation enjoy Maw/Daphne Broon's posts though. Hope I have found a safe harbour here.

Mildred Wanting everyone to be happy, is a Granny thing from which most of us suffer. You've done a sterling job...a big group (((hug))) and lots of love.

kitty I prefer your choice of clothing for your mother's fond farewell. Head up...chest out and wear a smile together with your outfit. I wore a red coat for my late father's funeral. It was a favourite of his. Every other mourner wore black. My father's chosen hymn was 'All things bright and beautiful...^

anno The injection that I had in my shoulder, some three years ago, was miraculous. It is a debilitating pain. Suffer ye not in silence.

ann I am truly floored and dismayed by the response of your GP and Social Services. How utterly barmy of them to imagine that you can continue without some proper support.

Mildred and all who have my best interests at heart. Thankyou but my GP has made it clear that they have neither the staff or the resources to help at all. They just suggest that social services is the way to go and they make it clear that if my H doesn't want help himself,and he doesn't as he doesn't have a problem, they cannot help, so I soldier on with my couple of breaks a week for coffee with friends and cope the rest of the time.

soop, I have just caught up on recent posts. I'm shocked at your description of McS's injuries. Is his tetanus protection up to date? I know mine isn't but then I don't go around climbing over fences!. Sympathy to all the kitcheners who are suffering in body or in mind. My right shoulder is punishing me for dealing with my suitcase on my train journeys last weekend. I had it injected a few years ago and that worked well. I will get onto my GP again for a repeat. There's no point suffering in silence at my age - or any age.

I've just popped in so I don't lose track again. (((hugs))) to all who need them, but don't wake MacS. I really envy you your views soop. We have minute garden which is our only view. We look down to the old school yard wall which is now covered in ivy. We planted a 'glossom' tree when DD3 was about 7 and we get lots of birds on the feeders but it nothing like your fabulous outlook.

Trying to find clothes for Mum's funeral has been taxing me somewhat so I asked my personal shopper's (DD3) advice. She is rather more flamboyant than I and, following her advice, I bought a wrap and a big scarf. How do I break it to her that I've now been shopping and bought a sort of coatigan and new grey trousers. I can't cope with things that have a mind of their own. Mum always told me that I don't dress according to my 'position as the wife of a professional man' so I am conscious that I have to do her proud whilst still being myself and feeling 'comfortable'. And we have said that black isn't necessary. I need a if not a !

Mildred please don't feel bad, your DGS knows you love him, I'm sure.

Ann, you have my sympathy, DH tries very hard to be helpful and, just sometimes, he is!

I just want everybody to be happy, don't do shouting or arguing as it upsets me, silly to feel like this at my age and I have minded him this morning while his Dad picked up the car and he is my little prince again. Nothing like the stresses that other people have to cope with on Gransnet, but stressful to me. Ann is it possible that instead of increasing your anti-depressants your gp could find some means to give you a bit of breathing space away from your husband. I know a neighbour goes to a lunch club, she is picked up and dropped off. I just feel that there is a danger that you might explode/implode. My Mum nursed my Dad when he had MND and the stress made her ill and my Dad had to go into hospital to give her a break.

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Hello, Lona... two further photos of the visiting deer...

Tizliz Some of today's sunshine sent to you and all lovely Granspals.

MacSporran has been ordered persuaded to take a leisurely Sunday afternoon. I've just this minute checked on him. He's fast asleep in the chair looking over the view below.

Greyduster The hand holding made me feel all warm and soppy.

kitty Thank you for your interesting post.

callgirl1 Another trip to the charity shop, perhaps? I'm thinking about another "clear-out" of my wardrobe. Yesterday, a pair of new jeans that fit like a dream arrived in the post. I "won" them on eBay for 99pence and £2.25 postage. There were no other bids placed.

I've ordered a beautifully made Scottish tartan waistcoat for MacSporran to try on. He can return if he's not happy. I think that it will look very smart worn at our granddaughter's wedding in Amsterdam.

Swanny Back pain is a buggeration!
MacSporran tells me that he has safely climbed over said fence on scores of occasions. He is attempting to divert the water from the woodland that seeps under our back fence and creates large pools/puddles on the path. It's a job for a tough young man. Not an over-enthusiastic 76 year old with Leukaemia. I've dug a mini Suez canal but it has silted up.

MawB I'm also pleased that your husband's spirits were lifted thanks to a surprise visit. It must be so draining for him to have on-going breathlessness to contend with. Exhausting for you, too.

NanaandGrampy Us lot look forward to the family photos. Continue to have fun.

Izabella I'm sending you some of today's Kintyre wall-to- wall

Mildred and Ann Gentle hugs by the score.

Wonderful photos soop

I'm with you on being instructed on how to bandage a wound and can imagine the look you gave MacS. My mother said I had an indignant look that would shrivel someone to a potato crisp

Ooh Matron!! I think MacSporran had better do as he's told from now on. Does he maybe need stitches in his scalp or would that be a step too far for him?
Those deer are very tame aren't they, great photos.

Rubbish weather here today, so I've changed the bedding and washed my hair and am now surrounded by the papers, in lolling mode.

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A sunny and bright good afternoon dear Kitcheners.

MacSporran thanks each of you for your kindly messages. The head is ghastly. He has pushed skin into a concertina-like roll and the blood has congealed so that the rest is open to the air. Not a bad thing. The knuckle of his thumb is both cut, swollen and badly bruised. I've changed the dressing this morning. The house reeks of TCP. He tried to instruct me on the correct way to bandage a wound. I stared, long and hard, he looked away first. I am keeping a beady eye on him. I think it rather likes it.

We awoke to discover three deer in the garden. Two leapt over the very fence that MacS had attempted to bridge (most unsuccessfully) and the youngest ventured too close to the hedge close to the road. MacS did a spot of shepherding and coaxed wayward deer over the safer fence back into the woodland.

Good afternoon, kitcheners. Hope all those who are injured and ailing are feeling better today. Just back from standing on a muddy touch line in the pouring freezing rain, having driven past the ground three times - even the satnav got it wrong! The things we do for love!
I made a chicken curry yesterday for today's lunch so that will be something to look forward to when I have warmed up. Putting my feet up this afternoon.
Ann I do so feel for you and wish, like others, that there was something I could do. Can only send my warmest thoughts.

soop if you had the weather yesterday that we did you would not have been gardening and therefore no falls - there is still 2" of water on the patio and everywhere else is water logged. It rained solidly all day. Hope MacS is not too bruised today. I also have a big pile of ironing but I am procrastinating - one of my better skills!