Hi all, my partner is 54, I'm 53. He's going to be a grandfather end March/early April. I'm quite apprehensive as we've only been in a relationship for 15 months. How will having a grandchild change the dynamic of our relationship? I'm feeling quite strange - I can't give my partner our own child even though I have strong feelings I'd like to but realistically speaking we're too old. I adore kids but I'm finding my partner looking at every small child when we're out and it hurts I can't give him a child of our own. The grandchild will also be living in another State and I'm pretty sure he'll want to be there often but time apart on a regular basis will be hard for me. I feel so selfish and down about my feelings. The son and his fiance are a gorgeous couple but I can't help feeling scared too. Any advice? My own kids are still late teens so I really don't feel comfortable being a step-grandparent yet! I know the baby will have plenty of love including from me and I know that's all that matters. Some advice please.
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