This is hard. Our son declined any involvement with his daughter (from a brief liaison) which of course, I blame myself for. I must have done something wrong. We have been involved from the beginning, supporting her & her mum through years of social services involvement and having her for fortnightly weekends/holidays in his absence, therefore, she has a solid attachment with us. For the last two years we have been supporting our son & his fiance to be involved and they have been really good and clearly love her. But it hurts them terribly that her attachment to us is greater. It would be cruel to step back too far for her emotional well-being, but so hard for them feeling that they must be getting it wrong. I tried suggesting a parenting programme but that went down really badly. God! Parenting is hard! Anyone else had a similar experience? I know I just have to persevere but it can be really hard and they feel it is my fault.
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