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Cat / Neighbour Dilemma… šŸˆā€ā¬›

(58 Posts)
Hetty58 Fri 03-Mar-23 06:25:59

It's safer to keep them indoors:

www.cats.org.uk/help-and-advice/home-and-environment/cats-at-night

FannyCornforth Fri 03-Mar-23 06:19:43

Anyway, insults aside, what’s wrong with my cat going outside at night?

FannyCornforth Fri 03-Mar-23 06:17:48

It’s not a flipping fact! How dare you be so judgmental!

Hetty58 Fri 03-Mar-23 06:16:25

I'm not arguing, merely stating the facts!

FannyCornforth Fri 03-Mar-23 06:13:21

I’m not a responsible pet owner!?!
OMG

My cat has never had a tray and enjoys going outside.
It would be cruel to lock her in the house.
We live semi rural and she absolutely loves the outdoors.

The dog goes out for a wee at around 2am.

I can’t believe that I’m having to defend my good pet owner status here.

And Hetty, read the banner at the top of the forum - ā€˜leave arguments at the door’

Hetty58 Fri 03-Mar-23 06:08:39

FannyCornforth:

'our neighbour really isn’t a good cat mum'

I'm thinking that you're not a responsible pet owner either. Why let a dog and cat wander outside at night? If my little old dog needs to go out, I take her. The cat has a tray and is used to staying indoors at night. The cat flap is opened in the morning.

Of course, if there's food and warmth on offer, your neighbour's cats - and maybe foxes - will come in.

FannyCornforth Fri 03-Mar-23 05:59:23

Oh - and yesterday MrC overheard neighbour saying to Muppet that he was ā€˜getting fat’!
No wonder, he’s scoffing Rosie’s top of the range Royal Canin Maine Coon food every night hmm

FannyCornforth Fri 03-Mar-23 05:56:14

Hello smile

Just venting /moaning I suppose.

One (well, it could be both) of my neighbour’s cats keeps coming into the house at night.

Let’s call him Muppet, it’s not his real name, but that’s what I call him.

Anyway, Muppet eats Rosie’s biscuits (she only eats at night, so I leave a dish out for her) and sleeps in the living room.
He runs out when I go downstairs.

The cat flap that we have is a magnetic one, so if only works for Gracie (ddog) and Rosie (dcat).

But that’s when it’s not broken, however it has been broken for a while now, probably because of Gracie’s robustness in going in and out.

Muppet’s activities really get on Gracie’s nerves, but she’s a wuss and he pays no heed to her (following an unfortunate incident behind the shed).

I feel really sorry for Muppet as our neighbour really isn’t a good cat mum.
He’s often locked out of the house in the cold.
You can regularly hear him crying to go into his house.
When we had a load of snow a couple of years back, he was crying in the snow sad
She often shouts at him and kicks him out of the house when she goes to work.

We’ve got a little shelter in the garden which MrC has encouraged him to use.

But the thing is: I’ve noticed that Gracie hasn’t been herself for a few days, and yesterday I realised what the reason could be.
We’ve got a few foxes in the field at the bottom of the garden, and I think that she is worried that they will be able to come into the house too.

She is extremely, massively territorial and hyper vigilant and very protective of me.

I’ve realised that I’m going to have fit a new cat flap so that Muppet can’t come in, but I feel so sorry for him.

Am I being a horrible cruel woman, or am I being a total wuss?

(Sorry that this is a bit rambling, I’ve just had my painkillers!)