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New grandparent and childcare

(16 Posts)
MissAdventure Fri 26-Jul-24 15:29:42

They didn't put a smile on mine, back in the day, but they all turned out quite normal adults, thankfully. smile

crazyH Fri 26-Jul-24 15:28:00

Miss A - your “little angel’s” antics, have put a smile on my face 😃

MissAdventure Fri 26-Jul-24 15:27:30

The phone issue is one thing, but the little boy who used to bite certainly had parents with the necessary skills. (She a headmistress, and him a doctor)

There were no phones in that day, on.y landlines; the little boy just had a temper on him.

MissAdventure Fri 26-Jul-24 15:24:13

No, I'm really not.

There again, my "little angel" a d her friend forced a little boy into a plaid laundry bag and zipped him into it.

GranofH Fri 26-Jul-24 15:24:03

Thanks Romola I feel I was too restrained and should have said something but I was too busy consoling H, I know it's not the child's fault, it's down to parenting skills or lack of...
I've had 3 children of my own I know what that brings lots of fall outs and tears but I felt this was quite aggressive for a toddler and I feel the mother should have at least made eye contact with me afterwards but she was more interested in her phone

ronib Fri 26-Jul-24 15:23:01

Well my adult son was very surprised to be knee capped by a little boy aged around 3 when dropping off at nursery. I guess impulse control is poor at this age and needs to be developed. My son didn’t get too involved and left as quickly as possible but with a badly bruised knee!

I am sorry for your loss.

crazyH Fri 26-Jul-24 15:22:22

Oh MissA , are t you exaggerating , a tiny bit?😂……your “little angel, with chunks missing “ 😂

Nannynoodles Fri 26-Jul-24 15:22:09

Totally understandable why you feel so protective of your family.
I wanted to wrap my grandchildren in cotton wool even without the trauma you have been through.
Unfortunately though we cannot totally protect them every minute of every day and he will come across some more aggressive children when he goes to nursery and playgroup.
It sounds that you did all you could to reassure him and that it may help him not to rush up to all new children assuming that they want to play. It’s a hard balance to get between letting them explore independently and protecting.

MissAdventure Fri 26-Jul-24 15:14:44

It's the kind of thing that happens when children mix, and it is upsetting, but natural.
My daughter's best friend at age two used to bite, and I used to hate seeing my "little angel" with chunks missing, but they cried their eyes out if they were separated.

Romola Fri 26-Jul-24 15:08:10

It's really upsetting when something like this happens. And it's not surprising that you feel protective towards little H, having lost your son. I think you were very restrained with the mother of the other child.
Just sending a virtual hug. I have a GS who was always too trusting and affectionate. 21 now and has found ways of coping with aggressive contemporaries.

GranofH Fri 26-Jul-24 14:18:12

No one really said anything afterwards, but although the mother was told she didn't seem bothered she just went back to her phone?

Thanks for the kind words about my son ❤️

GranofH Fri 26-Jul-24 14:15:36

Thank you both for your quick replies.

I know he will encounter rough kids as he goes to nursery and school, I feel guilty that on my watch he was hurt, he's such a gentle little boy it was a shock to him and me.

Some kids really are feral in this town, it makes me want to pack them up and go live in a tiny community again where we all know and respect each other.

NotSpaghetti Fri 26-Jul-24 14:08:39

Did anyone say anything to you about it at the playgroup?
It sounds to me that this incident is over. The mum was told what happened. Your grandson is ok now i assume. At least someone else saw it.
I think children are often not very kind to each other, unfortunately.

I'm so sorry your son took his life. That must be really hard to bear. flowers

JaneJudge Fri 26-Jul-24 14:06:03

I'm sorry to hear about your son, that is devastating for you flowers

I honestly don't think you did anything wrong though.

Baggs Fri 26-Jul-24 14:05:31

Please don't worry about it, GranofH. Your reaction was perfectly natural and not nasty to the little nipper. No reason to speak to the mum as someone else told her what happened (it was probably obvious anyway).

GranofH Fri 26-Jul-24 14:01:04

Hi all, I'm new to the forum.
My daughter has returned to work part time and I'm looking after my 17 month grandson, it's a joy and I'm loving every minute.
He's our only grandchild and he'll probably always be our only one.
I have been taking him out and about to help his social skills but unfortunately we have encountered a couple of incidents where other children a little bit older than him have been rough, he's such a loving, easy going little boy who's not really experienced anything but love.
Today at a play centre a little boy around 2 cornered by gs and nipped his face, I said "no" be nice to the little boy and picked my gs up and got him away as he was upset which is understandable, the mother had been sat talking on her phone for most of the session oblivious to her child, it was only as I said "no" she jumped up asking what was happening another parent told her as I consoled my gs.
When my kids were small we lived in a tiny community where we all knew each other and parents were friends but we now live in a large town with lots of poverty and crime so I feel I didn't react properly to the incident, should I have spoken to the mother, I would really like other grandparents to let me know what they would do for in the future.
I am overprotective, I know, but I am still grieving the lost of my son who took his life 4 years ago and this makes me want to do everything in my power to protect the rest of my little family.
I'd really appreciate some input please