Potty training

Welcome Jennynanna
Well I m real ‘anti nappy in big kids’ but you ve inherited this and as it appears he’s had a lot of upheaval yes give it a month or two for him to settle if he’s going to be with you long term
Spring will be good let him be free in the house first, get a step for the toilet he’s a bit big for potties and massive praise when it is achieved but explain it all to him he’s old enough to understand
I totally disagree Velvetvinyl I think because of awful throw away nappies children nowadays are on the whole much later that previous generations (It in the news that some children start school in nappies) I see big kids with stinky bundles hanging round their bums, running around
I also don’t agree that boys are naturally later. Why ?
It needs lots of praise and big boy talk and never any crossness for mistakes which will happen ….new big boy pants of his choice (superman or favourite character pic they are everywhere to buy) He ll love to feel free of those things but because he’s obviously had a lot of upset in his life (or he wouldn’t be living with you) I would be very easy going about it
Make it into a game and expect mistakes but being without a nappy gives them the experience of recognising the feelings and happenings that follow the feelings, whilst in a nappy it all blends into one.
Good luck

No! It is common fact that boys take longer to train. My son was almost 4 before he fully engaged in training. He is just fine now and it didn’t harm him in any way. People are in such a rush for everything nowadays. Just keep practicing and it will happen!

I agree with pinkwoolly jumper. My DGS could never be bothered about using a potty, but was dry really quickly when he was given a step, so he could wee standing up properly, and they got one of those loo seats with a small inset for smaller bottoms. He just wanted to be like grown ups.

He's probably a bit big for a potty now. Maybe get one of those seats that fits over the toilet seat and a step stool to help him reach. My DGD hated the potty and refused to sit on it but was OK with the seat.

Your right ,with the upheaval I thought it best not to rush or push him into potty training ,I don't think he's ready just yet ,thinking I'll wait till the spring when the weather is better

Maybe the child is a bit unsettled with all the changes in his life, which might make him resistant to training, but at 3 years old he should be able to. Why don’t you give it a go ? Just make it into a game. - a chocolate button for every wee or poo in the potty , or sit him on it whilst watching Hey Duggee or whatever just to get him used to it. Is he at nursery? They may be able to help.

Thanks for the input ,he currently lives with me ...long story , I guess what I'm asking is should I be concerned ,people can be judgemental about these things ,especially when you read in the press about kids starting school in nappies

I guess all that matters is what his parents think

Hi Jennynanna,

On Gransnet, there are endless threads on potty training or children wearing nappies for too long, especially the current concerns about children starting school still in nappies.
You aren’t fazed by your grandson’s late start, but you are bothered by what other people think.
If you’re happy for him to be in nappies and not interested in being trained then try not to be bothered by other people’s opinions or judgements.
You don’t say if his parents are bothered, but if he’s staying with you,
how long will you continue being unfazed by the situation?